"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is America safe as indian student or as working professional

manish

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hey guys..i,m planning to do masters in USA.to be specific in Michigan.

is it a safe place to stay?

what are the areas and things which i should avoid?

what are the general rule you guys follow to be safe?

please let me know
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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In all big Northern cities, it's dangerous to be friendly.

You should be all right if you leave home after sunup and get back before sundown, keep to public places with plenty of foot and car traffic, and don't flash cash or an expensive watch or cell phone.
 

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WTF is this lol? Of course its safe. I was born and raised in Michigan, never had an issue. I honestly thought the initial OP question was a joke at first. If you can't be safe in the midwest of the US of A, you aren't safe anywhere.

As for Detroit, Detroit is fine. Do you want to live in some of the ghetto areas or the poorer suburbs? No. But many of the outlying counties of Detroit are some of the wealthiest in the US. Birmingham, Rochester, Bloomfield Hills, Grosse Point. All very wealthy. I lived in the Macomb area for years. Great area. Plenty of wealthy people and wealthy homes. Safe as anywhere in the world.

OP....what area of Mich are you moving to? I know the entire state very well.
 

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Down Low said:
In all big Northern cities, it's dangerous to be friendly.

You should be all right if you leave home after sunup and get back before sundown, keep to public places with plenty of foot and car traffic, and don't flash cash or an expensive watch or cell phone.
This is the biggest load of crap I have ever seen in my life. Seriously.

You act like Zombies come out at night. My God. Northern/midwest people are the friendliest people you will meet anywhere. As I said in the prior post, I grew up in Michigan. Moved to S Cal 5 years ago. People are wayyyyyy friendlier and outgoing in the midwest. Not even close. You can always spot the midwest people out here in CA (and there are tons of them) because they are the ones who are smiling and talking to you on the street. I have been in downtown Detroit a 1000 times at night, NEVER had an issue. And most of Michigan is small towns and cities anyway. Mostly all white too.

You live in Maryland, home of the one of the most violent cities in the USA (Baltimore) and can say that? Wow.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Mr.Positive

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Manish, Cordon's right. While I haven't lived in Michigan, I used to live in one of the top 10 crime ridden cities in America. I was fine, you just need to know which areas to avoid. As long as you avoid certain areas of any city, you will be fine. That and some common sense. Hope you enjoy your time here in America and welcome.
 

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Avoid Flint, MI as well.
 

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^ I lived in Fenton for 5 years or so. Great city. About 15 minutes south of Flint. I can attest to this. :)
 

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I've heard that Windsor, Ontario, just across the border from Detroit, is actually a nice place - especially compared to much of Detroit.
 

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cordoncordon said:
You act like Zombies come out at night.
In every city the troublemakers come out at night. There's even a song that pokes fun at it.

You're completely wrong and giving bad advice when you tell someone who isn't street smart to say "hi" to anyone he passes on the street. In the South, yes, always acknowledge passers-by. In the rest of the US, no.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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everyone should learn martial arts and ccw (concealed carry of weapons) a handgun, period. If you can't be bothered to handle the most BASIC of needs (ie, self defense,) you are a flake, period.
 
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