You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
If he doesn't want to be with the mom anymore, that's fine. It sucks for the mom, but there's nothing necessarily morally wrong with it. Sorry, but shacking up with the stepdaughter is morally repugnant. There's plenty of other fish in the sea to choose from.MatureDJ said:
It may not be mental illness, but there is something wrong with this scenario. The daughter can find a good-looking guy her age or another sugar daddy. The stepdad can find another girl with daddy issues to dote on. Some things you just don't do.samspade said:
Findog said:
No. That's far off the mark in my opinion. I think she's legitimately trying to understand the daughter's motivation and has just written the man off as a creep. The first thing that came to my mind was Woody Allen.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I'm tempted to quote law of power #5. So much depends on reputation. Guard it with your life.mrRuckus said: