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Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Is a picnic a good idea for a first date?

pancakepalace

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Do you think a picnic is a good idea for a first date? I'm thinking evening, like 6pm. Sun is going down late nowadays. In a nice spot, perhaps overlooking the city. Not sure if I would tell her. I'd just prepare the food and wine, and meet her and bring her there.
 

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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

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Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Thorninmyside

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Doesn't really leave you with an exit strategy, does it? To me that's something you reward good behaviour with. Right now you both have to qualify yourselves to each other.
 

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Its different, its creative, its relatively inexpensive, and it gives you one on one time. Its memorable. You want to be memorable. Everybody goes to the bar or out to eat or to coffee.

So why not?

Another good first date activity is to wander around an interesting part of the city. Like the picnic idea it gives you one on one time for conversation, and it memorable. Its also relatively inexpensive and you can always duck in somewhere for a libation or something.
 

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Doesn't really leave you with an exit strategy, does it? To me that's something you reward good behaviour with. Right now you both have to qualify yourselves to each other.
Hmm good points, especially about the exit strategy...
 

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Nah it's over investment for a first date. And it's setting the bar High you don't want to be her permanent entertainment. Unless of course you are very young you're meant to do all that Goofy romantic stuff when you're young. If you are Young by all means have fun with it.
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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It depends on how much rapport you have with her. If you've known her a long time, get along with her really well and she has extremely high interest in you, then sure. If you still barely know her, taking her for a walk in the park would be fine after you initially meet up for coffee.
 

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A romantic picnic is a good date if you are already dating her.

But for a first date it needs to be explicitly planned. No surprises like walking her into the woods while carrying a large basket. Also, unless there is a chance sex might happen, don't do it.
 
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If a picnic is something that you yourself want to do and would enjoy, go for it.
 

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I actually took my current girlfriend out for a picnic on our second date. Kind of special circumstances though because I was planning to go slow. She was my bosses wife's best friend so potential Fallout was high. I was late turning up to our first date because of a date and happy ending with a Malaysian girl. And I think she was pretty suss about my excuse so there wasn't much chance of getting friendzoned.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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pancakepalace

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Hmmm, seems everyone is against it. Whatever, I kind of want to do it even for myself. There's this place I kind of want to explore. I'm kind of living the high life this summer and don't want to go for a boring coffee.
 

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Do you think a picnic is a good idea for a first date? I'm thinking evening, like 6pm. Sun is going down late nowadays. In a nice spot, perhaps overlooking the city. Not sure if I would tell her. I'd just prepare the food and wine, and meet her and bring her there.

Absolutely, I never go anywhere that costs money when I hang out with a chick I haven't seen naked at least ten times.

The first few times, I choose a quiet park. My only intention is getting her back into my car. Never spend money on a new female. Death sentence
 

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Too much.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

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Konada

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Probably second date will be a good choice. I wouldn't go out of my way for a girl that I barely know, if you don't like her what are you going to do?

Pack up your picnic mat and your sandwiches and tell her 'Sorry this isn't working out.' LOL
 
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