"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is a girl calling you sweetie and hun a good or bad thing? Keep in mind this is over the phone and I'm 18 while she's 21. (She knows)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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no its a good thing, it shows comfortness
 
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ur not seriously asking this right? she's calling u a pet name and you think it might actually be a bad thing??

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it depends on the girl. Ive been called hun and sweetie by girls who wanted nothin to do with me. Some girls just have a habit of doin that
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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yeah dont even worry about it some girls just call everyone that
 
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lol this should be in the bible straight up
 
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skip2mylou781 said:
ur not seriously asking this right? she's calling u a pet name and you think it might actually be a bad thing??

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Yea well sweetie kinda seems wierd to me especially cuz shes older than me. Whatever I guess its just a kinda ambiguous word to me a lil like how "cute" is to some other guys.
 
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It's not as non-chalant as some people would have you believe. 'Sweetie' is one of those terms a female calls you when you're pretty far off from fvcking her. You're just harmless, most people will disagree but i've never had a girl I was close to fvcking or fvcked call me 'sweetie'

When you have power you use those types of terms. I know with girls that I know like me or that are obsessed with me, i'll call them 'sweetheart' and 'hun' and little pet names, they are 100% in my control and I use the terms to emasculate them, females do the same thing.

Start to take some control back and watch the 'sweeties' get less and less


-Cod3r
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Cod3r said:
It's not as non-chalant as some people would have you believe. 'Sweetie' is one of those terms a female calls you when you're pretty far off from fvcking her. You're just harmless, most people will disagree but i've never had a girl I was close to fvcking or fvcked call me 'sweetie'

When you have power you use those types of terms. I know with girls that I know like me or that are obsessed with me, i'll call them 'sweetheart' and 'hun' and little pet names, they are 100% in my control and I use the terms to emasculate them, females do the same thing.

Start to take some control back and watch the 'sweeties' get less and less


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I agree/do similar. Bust her balls more.
 
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sweetie, hun, hon etc...

Depends on the situation. It could be a sign of familiarity or attraction. Unfortunately the expression runs the full spectrum. You have to take other facts and factors into account. It sounds like it is an often used expression for this girl. As women gets older the word could be replaced with 'dear'. It also can be a cultural thing as well, where most people use the term. Apparently this is a common term in the Baltimore area for example. I don't know if it is still true but in England people would often address each other with the word 'love'. I think it is just common for people to use an expression that conveys gentility. So I think more often it is people just trying to be nice. Lately I have had someone calling me sweetie and hon(her spelling). She knows my name(at least I am rather certain she does) but insists in calling me first sweetie a few times and now hon. So I am wondering if hon is a demotion or the same thing. Probably I am in the same situation where she just like to use the expression rather liberally.
 
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"Honey" is too uni-sexual if you aren't already smashing her. Thats like when she is talking to her girlfriends and she lets out a "Gurrrrrrrl..." somewhere in the conversation. It can also be a pretext to her saying something really condescending like, "Honey, you need to take a bath" or something like that.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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AFAIC you need to watch and judge by ACTIONS. Not words. Judge nismo's ruling.

Case closed. Simple.
 
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If she's replacing your name with Hun or Sweetie in normal conversation, I'd say odd are 70/30 its a bad thing. She's placing you below her and toying with you like it is fun. She doesn't take you seriously, nor is she worried about you walking away.

I had a bartender I was flirting with years ago start to call me "Buddy" everytime I came into the bar (I had made a really terrible move to get her out on a date and it came off totally AFC and she wanted to position me as harmless and emasculated).

I politely told her my name and that she should call me that.

I at least held ground, got some respect back, and now when I see her out she's friendly and not standoffish. Of course, I never got a chance to get with her, but I recognized her calling me "Buddy", even if friendly in a bartender sort of way, was not good and I reframed it immediately.

I would recommend you do the same.

"Hey, call me [your name], or from now on you'll be known as "Toots", "Sugar t!ts" or "that Broad"

Say it sort of ****y/funny, with a smirk and not accusatory. She'll respect that and get the message.
 
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