"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Is a girl calling you sweetie and hun a good or bad thing?

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Is a girl calling you sweetie and hun a good or bad thing? Keep in mind this is over the phone and I'm 18 while she's 21. (She knows)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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no its a good thing, it shows comfortness
 
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ur not seriously asking this right? she's calling u a pet name and you think it might actually be a bad thing??

CMON
 
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it depends on the girl. Ive been called hun and sweetie by girls who wanted nothin to do with me. Some girls just have a habit of doin that
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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yeah dont even worry about it some girls just call everyone that
 
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lol this should be in the bible straight up
 
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skip2mylou781 said:
ur not seriously asking this right? she's calling u a pet name and you think it might actually be a bad thing??

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Yea well sweetie kinda seems wierd to me especially cuz shes older than me. Whatever I guess its just a kinda ambiguous word to me a lil like how "cute" is to some other guys.
 
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It's not as non-chalant as some people would have you believe. 'Sweetie' is one of those terms a female calls you when you're pretty far off from fvcking her. You're just harmless, most people will disagree but i've never had a girl I was close to fvcking or fvcked call me 'sweetie'

When you have power you use those types of terms. I know with girls that I know like me or that are obsessed with me, i'll call them 'sweetheart' and 'hun' and little pet names, they are 100% in my control and I use the terms to emasculate them, females do the same thing.

Start to take some control back and watch the 'sweeties' get less and less


-Cod3r
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Cod3r said:
It's not as non-chalant as some people would have you believe. 'Sweetie' is one of those terms a female calls you when you're pretty far off from fvcking her. You're just harmless, most people will disagree but i've never had a girl I was close to fvcking or fvcked call me 'sweetie'

When you have power you use those types of terms. I know with girls that I know like me or that are obsessed with me, i'll call them 'sweetheart' and 'hun' and little pet names, they are 100% in my control and I use the terms to emasculate them, females do the same thing.

Start to take some control back and watch the 'sweeties' get less and less


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I agree/do similar. Bust her balls more.
 
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sweetie, hun, hon etc...

Depends on the situation. It could be a sign of familiarity or attraction. Unfortunately the expression runs the full spectrum. You have to take other facts and factors into account. It sounds like it is an often used expression for this girl. As women gets older the word could be replaced with 'dear'. It also can be a cultural thing as well, where most people use the term. Apparently this is a common term in the Baltimore area for example. I don't know if it is still true but in England people would often address each other with the word 'love'. I think it is just common for people to use an expression that conveys gentility. So I think more often it is people just trying to be nice. Lately I have had someone calling me sweetie and hon(her spelling). She knows my name(at least I am rather certain she does) but insists in calling me first sweetie a few times and now hon. So I am wondering if hon is a demotion or the same thing. Probably I am in the same situation where she just like to use the expression rather liberally.
 
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"Honey" is too uni-sexual if you aren't already smashing her. Thats like when she is talking to her girlfriends and she lets out a "Gurrrrrrrl..." somewhere in the conversation. It can also be a pretext to her saying something really condescending like, "Honey, you need to take a bath" or something like that.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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AFAIC you need to watch and judge by ACTIONS. Not words. Judge nismo's ruling.

Case closed. Simple.
 
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If she's replacing your name with Hun or Sweetie in normal conversation, I'd say odd are 70/30 its a bad thing. She's placing you below her and toying with you like it is fun. She doesn't take you seriously, nor is she worried about you walking away.

I had a bartender I was flirting with years ago start to call me "Buddy" everytime I came into the bar (I had made a really terrible move to get her out on a date and it came off totally AFC and she wanted to position me as harmless and emasculated).

I politely told her my name and that she should call me that.

I at least held ground, got some respect back, and now when I see her out she's friendly and not standoffish. Of course, I never got a chance to get with her, but I recognized her calling me "Buddy", even if friendly in a bartender sort of way, was not good and I reframed it immediately.

I would recommend you do the same.

"Hey, call me [your name], or from now on you'll be known as "Toots", "Sugar t!ts" or "that Broad"

Say it sort of ****y/funny, with a smirk and not accusatory. She'll respect that and get the message.
 
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