Igetit!
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What's up guys,
Got a question about something that happens to me from time to time. The other day,I went through the drive-thru of a fast food resturant,and while I was at the window waiting for my food,the lady at the window told me that one of the other girls working there said that she thought that I was "cute".
It kind of threw me off guard because the last thing I had on my mind was women at that moment,I just wanted to get some food to take to work for lunch. Anyway,I responded with something dumb like,"Oh,she's going to make me blush",(I know,I know it was stupid). My thing is this:This kind of thing happens to me every now and then,and even though I've experienced it a lot,I have no idea how to respond to it. Whenever it comes to dating,I like to be the one in control. I want to be the one to approach the girl. This way,I never have to worry about getting in some situation with a girl with whom I'm not interested in. I mean like two months ago,the same thing happened again...but it was with a older woman. I walked into a KFC,and this older woman said something to one of the other girls there,and she came and told me. I got the feeling that they wanted me to ask the "old" woman out,but I wasn't interested in her. I wasn't attracted to her.
So my question is this:If a woman compliments you,is it an IOI? Or could she just be making an observation? If a guy (usually an AFC) tells a woman she's pretty,or tells her she's "hot",I think it's pretty clear that it's because he's interested in her. A guy wll want to date a woman,strictly based on her appearance alone,but woman want some sort of value in a guy,and they are attracted to a guy based on how she feels when she's around him. This is what is kind of confusing. When I was at the drive-thru,I wasn't demonstrating and kind of value (as far as I know),I was just sitting in my car waiting for my order. In fact,I never even saw the girl who actually gave the compliment. A woman approaching me with a compliment has always been a sore spot for me,whereas if I approach her,I already have sort of a plan/destination in mind. I generally think that IOIs from women are a response to a guy generating attraction in her first. Action,reaction.
We demonstrate value,they react with IOIs. We demonstrate afc qualities and tendencies,they react with rejection. But to have a women give compliments (possible IOIs) first? Kinda throws me for a loop fellas.
What do you guys think about this?
Got a question about something that happens to me from time to time. The other day,I went through the drive-thru of a fast food resturant,and while I was at the window waiting for my food,the lady at the window told me that one of the other girls working there said that she thought that I was "cute".
It kind of threw me off guard because the last thing I had on my mind was women at that moment,I just wanted to get some food to take to work for lunch. Anyway,I responded with something dumb like,"Oh,she's going to make me blush",(I know,I know it was stupid). My thing is this:This kind of thing happens to me every now and then,and even though I've experienced it a lot,I have no idea how to respond to it. Whenever it comes to dating,I like to be the one in control. I want to be the one to approach the girl. This way,I never have to worry about getting in some situation with a girl with whom I'm not interested in. I mean like two months ago,the same thing happened again...but it was with a older woman. I walked into a KFC,and this older woman said something to one of the other girls there,and she came and told me. I got the feeling that they wanted me to ask the "old" woman out,but I wasn't interested in her. I wasn't attracted to her.
So my question is this:If a woman compliments you,is it an IOI? Or could she just be making an observation? If a guy (usually an AFC) tells a woman she's pretty,or tells her she's "hot",I think it's pretty clear that it's because he's interested in her. A guy wll want to date a woman,strictly based on her appearance alone,but woman want some sort of value in a guy,and they are attracted to a guy based on how she feels when she's around him. This is what is kind of confusing. When I was at the drive-thru,I wasn't demonstrating and kind of value (as far as I know),I was just sitting in my car waiting for my order. In fact,I never even saw the girl who actually gave the compliment. A woman approaching me with a compliment has always been a sore spot for me,whereas if I approach her,I already have sort of a plan/destination in mind. I generally think that IOIs from women are a response to a guy generating attraction in her first. Action,reaction.
We demonstrate value,they react with IOIs. We demonstrate afc qualities and tendencies,they react with rejection. But to have a women give compliments (possible IOIs) first? Kinda throws me for a loop fellas.
What do you guys think about this?