"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Is 2 months too long?

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Ok DJ fellows need some advise here...

Been dating a HB9 for 2 months now. Everything is really great except she won't have sex. We both have essentially dropped our other dating partners. I can play with her privates but she keeps saying its too soon when we move any further. She went through a bad break up from a LTR 5 months ago. Its getting rather frustrating since we make out / hang out but she puts the breaks on all the time noting that she really has to know someone before she sleeps with them.

Am I being unreasonable here to expect a bit more after 2 months? Anyone had similar experiences or suggestions? I'm thinking of either backing way off or considering cutting this one loose altogether.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Ya I know, problem is she is sensing that it frustrating me - I don't particularly want to mess it up but at the same time don't want to end up in the friendzone.... any advise?
 

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It sounds like she isnt comfortable around you yet, or is too worried about getting hurt (unlikely, women listen to their sex drive vs their sense of reason anyday)

What has worked for me in the past with women like this is increase Kino, start holding her hands, cuddling during a movie (then slowly feeling her up - ass- tits, etc)

When she gets used to your hands being in her forbidden zones, she will eventually become comfortable to open up

Kind of like you have to let a vicious dog smell your hands, let you pet it and eventually the dog likes you, and will let you fondle its nuts

girls are the same way
 

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The more pressure she senses from you the less likely she will be to give it up and the shorter your relationship will be.

Solution:

Deny her sexual activity. It might be a bit too late now, but ideally, you have to make HER want It. If you remain nonchalant about actually having sex, while being sensual, women tend drop the panties.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Is there another HB9 to take her place? No, I thought so.

Do what the other dj's posted here - quit acting like you 'need' it and have an "I don't care attitude". Some girls want to make sure that dudes don't have sex with them and then just leave....she wants you to want her and not her vagina! Assure her of this!
 
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