"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Iron Rule #4: NEVER under any circumstance live with a woman you aren't married to
- Thread starter piranha45
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Luthor Rex
Master Don Juan
Yes, it was a horrible line. "So obi wan, you're telling me that it is absolutely true that ONLY a sith deals in absolutes. Which means you're a sith too."taiyuu_otoko said:
Stupid star was philosophy.
trajhenkhet02
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piranha45 said:
I did. The good news is that my loss was not tremendous. If the person isn't good enough to marry what the hell makes them qualified to live with? Unless they are very good with responsibility your setting yourself up for some kind of shenanigan.
DoubleA
Senior Don Juan
Besides, Fuxxx
How many guys or gals ..
Have moved in with ya "friend" and made a success of it?
I want to know and how long before it ended?
This is Real Talk. I'm starting to get the feeling members on the board are cutting up. It's OK to have the ONE STRIKE RULE; however, I wonder how do we move into the next stage without PARANOIA.
Someone tell me how it's done.
- AA
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
DoubleA said:
Let's see...
When I was 19, I went to a college with crappy dorms, 40 guys to one bathroom, and had an annoying roommate, but I happened to find one of the very few girls who had an off-campus apartment (rule violation, church college). That was a success, at least until school finished and I went back home.
Then I shacked up with a woman at the next college I went to after being together about four months. We got married three months later, mostly to get student loans for me and in-state tuition for her. Both of us came out ahead simply for the technicality of being married. Her rich family paid our rent for years and would often fly us down to the Caribbean resort they owned. Seven years later, she cheated a bunch and divorced me, but we had no kids and she paid for the divorce. I was already living 1,000 miles away from her, and I was upset, but it was really no big deal. Today, we are still friends. My girlfriend and I went out to eat with her in March when we were on vacation. I take satisfaction in her wanting me back very badly and regretting the divorce.
Then, last year, I moved in together with another girlfriend. Both of us have already been married, so we don't really care about that. I knew this girl from high school - she was my first real girlfriend when I was 16. Right after we moved in together, I lost my job and she paid all my bills for about six months until I got a new job. We rarely fight and have crazy sex every day. So yeah, things are pretty good.
As for "how it's done," I can only say that you just have to be good with women. I really believe that I could always find a woman to take me in and support me if I ever had to. I think the skill is mostly understanding the way that woman experience emotion, and the manner in which emotions rule their lives. These emotions are often like the weather, and there is no changing them. Don't hold a woman's emotions against her, because she did not choose them. Then learn that everything you say and do will push certain emotional buttons. These buttons are very powerful. When you learn to manipulate them, she will do whatever you like.