She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That's not true at all. If my phone is out, that means the chick already is in the process of giving me her number. Unless of course my opening line is, "Hey look at my phone."DonGorgon said:
Numbers from gay men, possibly.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Fair point. In a slightly unrelated point, I find the older I'm getting, the easier it is getting younger girls...I've had three girls recently all around 19 very interested in me! and I'm 24, and making hardly no effort with them. :rockon:lorekeeper said:no no, f!d, Goran mentioned young materialistic superficial girl. they get that name cause they are young, materialistic and superficial!
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
bigjohnson said:My iPhone went around a club while I was on vacation a while back (when they were new) with girls playing the games on it and stuff. It came back with 6-8 new contacts added, some with pictures.
iphone is number one phone on earth.. not cause its most powerful ... its the most stylish smooth phone .. its haas set a standard of cool but is also a fantastic smart phone.JLay87 said:
MikeBrown30 said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Sorry - missed this before.DonGorgon said:
lolz. like totallyz.DonGorgon said:
I don't save texts and whatever happens to be on the phone, it's not a State secret. I have a spare in any case but really it was a nice upscale place and I wasn't worried. All I need is some Windex and good as new.DonGorgon said:
Well really it's just $100 a month, and I don't have a home phone any more, so it's pretty minimal part of my expenses and I use it a lot in my daily life to look at my stock prices, make trades, find things, look things up and sometimes I even use it to communicate with others.Alle_Gory said:
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.