"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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IOI's from very hot girls, still don't know what to do

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Last week, I was down town barhopping by myself.

Literally, the hottest girl in the whole city came up to me and said "you look really nice." I had seen her a few times before and she has seen me, too. She was not serving me so she was not just after a tip. I still didn't know what to say. My conversational skills are horrible.

At another bar, there was a song on that goes "I'm not a player, I just crash a lot." And the bartender came up to me and said "are YOU a player?" I guess I was giving off that vibe.

I just said some thing about "nah, I'm too old." And she told me I'm not old. Then, I didn't know what to say.

Even when very attractive women basically directly hit on me, I am still at a loss of what to do.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Taco tuesday!!!

Go!
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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RichardTheFrog said:
Last week, I was down town barhopping by myself.

I still didn't know what to say. My conversational skills are horrible.

(So work on them )
How ? By talking with people men and women and getting comfortable with them, yourself and the situation.


I just said some thing about "nah, I'm too old." And she told me I'm not old. Then, I didn't know what to say.

( why do you not know what to say?)
Is it because you get nervous?



Even when very attractive women basically directly hit on me, I am still at a loss of what to do.

You know what to do come on. At the very least just mirror back what they say till you can think of something else.

Example:
Woman: wow aren't you cute I love your hair.
You: you look beautiful in that dress it fits you well, it really makes your hair look amazing.

By then you should have another subject to talk about unless she carries the conversation. But don't mirror her twice in a row or too many times unless your going to turn it into a joke and tease her.
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Little Richard would like to have a word with you. Then you whip out your d!ck and spin it helicopter style. Works everytime 66% of the time.
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Drake Remoray said:
Why are you all giving him a hard time? He's a new guy asking an honest question.
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Ok, the reason I suggested Taco tuesday is because its a normal thing you do...invite her to do normal stuff...go get a steak, ask her to join you and help you eat it!!! (Insert tubesteak joke here)

Women are here to help, let her fulfill her function.

Do I need to write a frickin book???o_O

Oh yeah, it's already written!:rofl:
 
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Drake Remoray said:
Why are you all giving him a hard time? He's a new guy asking an honest question.
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I did not give him a hard time. He's either really young or a 40 year old virgin. Either way it's going to take him some trial and error. Now go out there and be somebody.
 
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RichardTheFrog said:
Literally, the hottest girl in the whole city came up to me and said "you look really nice."
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I would've followed this up with "Aw that's kind of you.....What are you upto now?"

Or "What are you doing later?"

Or "Thank you. Fancy grabbing a coffee/drink/protein shake/smoothie?"

Ask questions, always be closing.

She put herself into your orbit, she approached you and threw an obvious IOI at you.....She wanted you mate!
 
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RichardTheFrog said:
Last week, I was down town barhopping by myself.

Literally, the hottest girl in the whole city came up to me and said "you look really nice." I had seen her a few times before and she has seen me, too. She was not serving me so she was not just after a tip. I still didn't know what to say. My conversational skills are horrible.

At another bar, there was a song on that goes "I'm not a player, I just crash a lot." And the bartender came up to me and said "are YOU a player?" I guess I was giving off that vibe.

I just said some thing about "nah, I'm too old." And she told me I'm not old. Then, I didn't know what to say.

Even when very attractive women basically directly hit on me, I am still at a loss of what to do.
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Just come up with something ridiculously funny. You can't make these lines canned, so you'll have to improvise. But here's an example, when she said "are YOU a player?" you could've said "I'm actually a spy and I'm here to make sure you're behaving *smirk* I'm NAME. What's your name?
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For the girl who said you looked nice, you could've said "I was wondering why it took you so long to come say hi *smirk*. I like your (something she's wearing), I can tell you're a woman of style. I'm NAME. What's your name?"

You get the point. Be playful, misinterpret her behavior as if she's treying to make a pass on you but be FUNNY while you do it. Give her a compliment on a personality trait or something she's wearing (not on beauty) and then say you aren't sure about her (something). It's all a big game. You win by having fun, smooth and not being outcome dependent.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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phil2015 said:
I would've followed this up with "Aw that's kind of you.....What are you upto now?"

Or "What are you doing later?"

Or "Thank you. Fancy grabbing a coffee/drink/protein shake/smoothie?"

Ask questions, always be closing.

She put herself into your orbit, she approached you and threw an obvious IOI at you.....She wanted you mate!
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Yea I wish I would have said "Thanks! Want to come over later?"

Or got her Snapchat and told her about my collection of flavored lubricants that can make her **** taste like raspberries.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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