"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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IOI's and Cold Approaching

parkthebus

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So I just started reading the DJ Bible and the second post in chapter A says:

"Approach only when you get the initial eye contact. If you walk up to her without her noticing you first, you're setting yourself up for the big R. After the eye contact show her your beautiful smile - when she smiles back that's your que, have at em' Cassanova."

That seems more like someone rationalising themselves out of approaching. What if the girl hasn't seen you? What if she's shy? What if you live in a city where people tend to be reserved and often hostile? I used to live in London and got far less eye contact than I do in Australia and I haven't changed in the way I look, dress or carry myself.

I don't doubt that if, as a rule, you don't approach women who haven't given any eye contact you'll get rejected far less often but I think that advising men not to approach without eye contact is flawed.

Thoughts?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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ubercat

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I'd agree - I say harden up and do it anyway. In a big city women will often be pre-occupied or listening to music. If u wait for IOIs you might be waiting a long long.
 
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