"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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IOI's! All you need to know in it's simplest form.

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All rise! Court is now is session. The honorable Judge nismo-4 presiding. You may be seated.

I see too many guys analyzing these supposed IOI's, like twirling her hair, fidgeting, heavy eye contact, etc. Stop it.

If you like what you see on a lady and you think she may have some interest in you, get the f**k over there and talk to her! She likely ain't gonna make the first move.

Shoot first, ask questions later. Keep looking for buying signals if you want to, but don't be surprised when you likely get friendzoned. Why would you get friendzoned here? Easy, let's review the reasons.

1. Your lack of testicular fortitude dried her pu$$y up.
2. The window of attraction closes quickly. You missed your chance. Good luck forcing it open.
3. Women love a man who takes action, the lead, initiative, call it what you want. That passive sh*t just don't work, especially for most of us on this board.
4. Analysis paralysis. It happens, but if she labeled you as a wuss for not making a move, you have an uphill battle.

If you make a move, and show masculinity i.e. not being a woman with a penis, you'll have a better chance. An element of luck and availability is also involved. In essence, you are calling her bluff, especially if she's showing some supposed IOI. The end result will either be:

1. No. Because she only wanted you as an orbiter/ego booster or didn't find you attractive. Move on, don't waste your time here.

2. Yes. She follows your lead and might be dripping wet because you want more. Remember to escalate more, but calibrate correctly. And make sure her actions back this yes up as a yes.

Now, the IOI's that truly count. For all intents and purposes, I'm not counting mundane sh*t that often gets faked and is often used for guys in the friendzone/ attention provider zone like laughing at your jokes, heavy eye contact, phone/ text messaging, etc.

Ask yourself these questions. The answer given is all the indicator you need.

1. Does she flake on my date invites? No
1. (Rephrased) Does she accept my date invites and show the f**k up? Yes
2. Does she confuse me? No
3. Do we have sex? Yes

All three of these are the biggest points you need to consider an IOI. They are the strongest points that back up a woman's "yes" answer because they are all action based. Just don't turn AFC unless you want to dry her up in a New York second.

Also, a woman throwing mixed signals is giving you: (use whatever term you like)
1. False hope
2. Negative signals
3. A message you and your ego don't like or want to hear/ accept
4. An invite to join her orbiters

That's a time to up your masculinity or move on if she's playing too many games. If you go the former, she will either continue with the game playing, move on, (Drop it and go to another girl if this happens) or give you a yes response. If the yes response is given, make sure the actions back it up.

If nothing further, we'll stand adjourned.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Good, quality post Nismo. I'm curious, what's your style? When you see a woman staring at you twirling her hair from accross the room, what's your go to opener?
I'm about to move this into the tips section.

Oh yeah, that's another point. Trying to figure out some rejection-proof magic bullet line. I really won't compliment her looks (I'll call her cute, but I won't say sexy unless she does first), but rather this:

"What else do you have going for you besides your looks?"

Don't be an orbiter, but don't make her feel like a cheap slvt. And if she stays in the convo, drop the innuendos in on occasion.
 
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