"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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IOI Question For Mystery Method PUAs

thickandcreamy

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OK, I've been learning some Mystery Method from a pua. I don't know a lot about it, but I am reading up. Right now, I'm learning about how to read IOI's (indicators of interest).

One question: is it an IOI if a girl leans in and starts talking/whispering in your ear every time? She's not touching me per se (one IOI) but it feels like an IOI to me. Is this right?

T 'n C
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Distant Light

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yes, leaning in is a good thing
 

everywomanshero

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Mystery lists them in his book, VAH, that you can buy on his website. It only costs a few dollars.

It's very handy to have for other reasons
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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thickandcreamy

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OK, now what if a girl looks at you over her shoulder, but right past you. Like I was at a bookstore and this girl kept looking directly at me over her shoulder, but she was acting like she was looking for someone or something just behind me.

This sometimes happens at the bar too. I've always ignored it, thinking it was insignificant. Is this an IOI also?

T 'n C
 
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