"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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inviting a girl to a wedding?

usscrum

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i've been talking to this girl for a little over 3 weeks now. she's 19, i'm 21 and we go to school about 1.5 hrs apart. i've stayed at her place and she stayed this weekend with me. we've done everything but have sex (she was on the rag this past weekend). she is LTR material so far but obviously that's a bridge i don't care to cross until much later.

anyways, my cousin is getting married the saturday of memorial day weekend (may 23) and i need to RSVP in a couple days and let them know if i'm bringing a guest. i dont feel like sitting with my family the whole time so i want to invite this girl. the wedding is only about an hour from the cities she and i will be living in over the summer.

my question is whether or not you guys think it would be okay to ask this girl to come with me to the wedding. i have only been to a couple and i'm not sure what the guidelinesare for bringing a date.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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pua1989

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yeah seems kinda weird...i mean im sure you could pull it off and have a good time just be ready for the "so when are you guys tyin the knot?" to be thrown at you all night
 

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SickAgain said:
I dunno man, she'd have to meet your whole family and everything....seems premature.
yeah that's mainly what i was worried about, but she is really laid back and likes meeting people...i don't think she would get the wrong idea.

personally i just see it as a normal date. i don't have anyone to bring and don't want to go with my parents. i think i could pull it off without sounding weird if i made sure she knew it was a pretty casual thing...but i just wasn't sure if there were any undertones that girls try and pick up on when a guy invites them to a wedding.

by the time the wedding rolls around i'd be comfortable bringing her, but unfortunately i have to invite her like a month in advance.
 

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It will be hard to pull off-she may over think the whole thing. If YOU want a long term relationship,it may be the catalyst to bring it on.Weddings are like chick crack-they love them,dream of theirs,look and plan what they would do different,etc.

Even if you tell her it is a normal date and she is doing you a favor by coming so you don't have a totally boring evening;she will think more is intended.
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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No. Never take a woman to a wedding unless she's just a friend. Trust me. They read TONS into it.

Also this prevents you from hooking up with any single bridesmaids who may be wedding-jealous and feeling frisky. :)
 
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