Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Invited to birthday party..need advice

bruceartest24

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Two girls I am into are friends. I got invited to the birthday party for lets call her (A). (A) tells me should would love for me to come. I am going to go and was wondering whats the proper etiquette? Should I get her a gift and also should I ask her friend lets call her (B) to help me pick out a gift for (A)? I am more into (B) and I think she knows this but (A) still shows me interest.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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O.P is most likely their spritzing, mincing hairstylist humming Broadway show tunes while awaiting Sosuave replies.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Mantis Toboggan

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bruceartest24 said:
Two girls I am into are friends. I got invited to the birthday party for lets call her (A). (A) tells me should would love for me to come. I am going to go and was wondering whats the proper etiquette? Should I get her a gift and also should I ask her friend lets call her (B) to help me pick out a gift for (A)? I am more into (B) and I think she knows this but (A) still shows me interest.

Why would you buy a gift for a girl you're not dating?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Mike32ct

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I'm gonna take a different view. Why should you go to a BIRTHDAY party empty handed? Buy her something, just keep it simple and inexpensive. You don't want to be the only cheap b@stard at the party that got "A" nothing.

Whether "B" does or does not buy "A" anything is neither your business nor your problem. If they are friends, she probably will. If she doesn't, you will be the classy one and she'll feel lower than you (good). If she does, then you are both thoughtful.

Then continue to game "B" at the party. This may create jealousy in "A" because you thought of her, but didn't try to pick her up.

In a way, it's better that you DON'T game "A.". She can be used for networking and, possibly invite you to future parties to meet other chicks.
 

bruceartest24

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Mike32ct said:
I'm gonna take a different view. Why should you go to a BIRTHDAY party empty handed? Buy her something, just keep it simple and inexpensive. You don't want to be the only cheap b@stard at the party that got "A" nothing.

Whether "B" does or does not buy "A" anything is neither your business nor your problem. If they are friends, she probably will. If she doesn't, you will be the classy one and she'll feel lower than you (good). If she does, then you are both thoughtful.

Then continue to game "B" at the party. This may create jealousy in "A" because you thought of her, but didn't try to pick her up.

In a way, it's better that you DON'T game "A.". She can be used for networking and, possibly invite you to future parties to meet other chicks.
That is great I will do this..appreciate the advice.
 
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