Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Invited a chick to go see a movie; she didn't come

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Ok kid, I don't know if giving you Hor advice is legal??? Is there a lawyer specializing in hordoms in the house?
 

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Men helping one another? Never. Sabatoge? Always.
 
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Itishe, all American girls know why guys ask them to the movies - and it is NOT to watch a movie!! They expect, no, 'want' you to do what men do!!
 

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Well date is still on, and I just talked to her a little while ago. She said she was picking up a friend after work to hang out for a while, but didn't ask or say she was bringing her to the movies. Is it safe to assume she won't bring a friend?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Got this one in the bag for sure. :)

My ex found out about my date, let's just say she acted like the child trying to prevent her parent's divorce. Asking me constantly if I cared about her, telling me how she can't get over me, blah blah blah. I know I no longer have feelings for her when I don't care when she cries.
 

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I feel kind of bad now. Not because I went on a successful date with one of her friends, but because she was crying up a storm last night. She asked me if I cared about her and I never said I did. blah blah blah, but I feel like ****.
 

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did u dump your ex or did she dump you?? shes probably jealous that you are giving her friends your attention now....eff thatttt keep doing your thing with the new girl and other girls too
 

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I dumped her.

She came back to town over Christmas break, we had sex then she got this grand idea that we were together, but she wouldn't take the title. So I told her then we'd be **** buddies, she didn't like that and wanted more but again she didn't want the title.

So anywho, when I do **** with other girls she cries up a storm and writes blogs on myspace saying how she's happy I'm out of her life, blah blah blah. You know typical girl bull**** to make them look strong.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So the date was a sucess in my view. I was thinking of calling her on Tuesday to set something up for Thursday or Friday. Good ideas for a 2nd date? I was thinking maybe a double date with a good friend of mine and his gf who happens to be good friends with this chick, perhaps bowling. It would let us socialize and have fun.
 
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Hey kid, you should have asked her to do something later in the week immediately after the first date and observed her facial expression to guage her interest on the spot!! Do you know what I mean???

If you were of sharp wit I would encourage an isolated date, if not, then invite your buddy -- bowling is a good function for four!!
 

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Asking a chick to do something right after a date seems clingy and desperate to me. I can sense sarcasm in your post though...
 

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I texted this girl to see if she wanted to go to a friends house and watch Borat tomorrow. She hasn't replied yet which is making me believe A) She hasn't checked her phone B) My ex is ****ing up another chick for me.

Is it reasonable to put a bounty of my ex's head if she does this again with another girl?
 
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itishe said:
Asking a chick to do something right after a date seems clingy and desperate to me. I can sense sarcasm in your post though...
I was serious! You can see her facial expressions and her response more clearly in person and determine if she is enthusiastic about you or hesitates and is unsure. You called her the next day anyway so she knows you want her - this is no secret!

If a girl likes you she'll be more than happy to respond in the affirmative right away!

ONLY if she doesn't want to see you anymore then ask her "Is it because of my ex?" and respond, "I'm not with her anymore! - did she say otherwise?" If she agrees to see you then don't mention your ex!!!
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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A little bit after the date she sent me a text saying, "Good night...?"

So I replied, "haha I thought it was"

That my friend is a golden response.
 
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itishe said:
A little bit after the date she sent me a text saying, "Good night...?"

So I replied, "haha I thought it was"

That my friend is a golden response.
ok kid, I'll give you recogniton for that remark - not bad for a 17 year old! :up:
 

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Haha I love life.

I just talked to my ex, she told me she never has and never will **** up my chances with other girls. And she said she'd love to be my **** buddy when I'm in a slump during the summer.

Anywho my phone has problems with sending texts, so I sent her a message on myspace seeing it was too late to call her. I asked if she had gotten my text.
 
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Be careful kid, she may be recording your conversation and keeping your text/e-mails to show this girl -- I know it sounds like paranoia but it is a possibility considering that you said she tried to sabotage your last fling!
 

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itishe said:
I texted this girl to see if she wanted to go to a friends house and watch Borat tomorrow. She hasn't replied yet which is making me believe A) She hasn't checked her phone B) My ex is ****ing up another chick for me.

Is it reasonable to put a bounty of my ex's head if she does this again with another girl?
What's up with all the texting? What's wrong with actually talking to someone you're dating.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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