"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Invited a chick to go see a movie; she didn't come

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Ok kid, I don't know if giving you Hor advice is legal??? Is there a lawyer specializing in hordoms in the house?
 
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Men helping one another? Never. Sabatoge? Always.
 
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Itishe, all American girls know why guys ask them to the movies - and it is NOT to watch a movie!! They expect, no, 'want' you to do what men do!!
 
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Well date is still on, and I just talked to her a little while ago. She said she was picking up a friend after work to hang out for a while, but didn't ask or say she was bringing her to the movies. Is it safe to assume she won't bring a friend?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Got this one in the bag for sure. :)

My ex found out about my date, let's just say she acted like the child trying to prevent her parent's divorce. Asking me constantly if I cared about her, telling me how she can't get over me, blah blah blah. I know I no longer have feelings for her when I don't care when she cries.
 
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I feel kind of bad now. Not because I went on a successful date with one of her friends, but because she was crying up a storm last night. She asked me if I cared about her and I never said I did. blah blah blah, but I feel like ****.
 
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did u dump your ex or did she dump you?? shes probably jealous that you are giving her friends your attention now....eff thatttt keep doing your thing with the new girl and other girls too
 
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I dumped her.

She came back to town over Christmas break, we had sex then she got this grand idea that we were together, but she wouldn't take the title. So I told her then we'd be **** buddies, she didn't like that and wanted more but again she didn't want the title.

So anywho, when I do **** with other girls she cries up a storm and writes blogs on myspace saying how she's happy I'm out of her life, blah blah blah. You know typical girl bull**** to make them look strong.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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So the date was a sucess in my view. I was thinking of calling her on Tuesday to set something up for Thursday or Friday. Good ideas for a 2nd date? I was thinking maybe a double date with a good friend of mine and his gf who happens to be good friends with this chick, perhaps bowling. It would let us socialize and have fun.
 
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Hey kid, you should have asked her to do something later in the week immediately after the first date and observed her facial expression to guage her interest on the spot!! Do you know what I mean???

If you were of sharp wit I would encourage an isolated date, if not, then invite your buddy -- bowling is a good function for four!!
 
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Asking a chick to do something right after a date seems clingy and desperate to me. I can sense sarcasm in your post though...
 
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I texted this girl to see if she wanted to go to a friends house and watch Borat tomorrow. She hasn't replied yet which is making me believe A) She hasn't checked her phone B) My ex is ****ing up another chick for me.

Is it reasonable to put a bounty of my ex's head if she does this again with another girl?
 
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Asking a chick to do something right after a date seems clingy and desperate to me. I can sense sarcasm in your post though...
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I was serious! You can see her facial expressions and her response more clearly in person and determine if she is enthusiastic about you or hesitates and is unsure. You called her the next day anyway so she knows you want her - this is no secret!

If a girl likes you she'll be more than happy to respond in the affirmative right away!

ONLY if she doesn't want to see you anymore then ask her "Is it because of my ex?" and respond, "I'm not with her anymore! - did she say otherwise?" If she agrees to see you then don't mention your ex!!!
 
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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A little bit after the date she sent me a text saying, "Good night...?"

So I replied, "haha I thought it was"

That my friend is a golden response.
 
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itishe said:
A little bit after the date she sent me a text saying, "Good night...?"

So I replied, "haha I thought it was"

That my friend is a golden response.
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ok kid, I'll give you recogniton for that remark - not bad for a 17 year old! :up:
 
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Haha I love life.

I just talked to my ex, she told me she never has and never will **** up my chances with other girls. And she said she'd love to be my **** buddy when I'm in a slump during the summer.

Anywho my phone has problems with sending texts, so I sent her a message on myspace seeing it was too late to call her. I asked if she had gotten my text.
 
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Be careful kid, she may be recording your conversation and keeping your text/e-mails to show this girl -- I know it sounds like paranoia but it is a possibility considering that you said she tried to sabotage your last fling!
 
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itishe said:
I texted this girl to see if she wanted to go to a friends house and watch Borat tomorrow. She hasn't replied yet which is making me believe A) She hasn't checked her phone B) My ex is ****ing up another chick for me.

Is it reasonable to put a bounty of my ex's head if she does this again with another girl?
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What's up with all the texting? What's wrong with actually talking to someone you're dating.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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