"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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dutchmaster

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Fellow DJs, I went to the mall today to practice some day game, and while leaving I thought of something that is either completely brilliant or extremely creepy, curious as to what the rest of you think.

I'm very sexual and let my intentions be known right off the bat with women, so I figured after a brief opener, maybe a giggle or 2 out of her I would ask her for her name and go to shake her hand. But as she gives me her hand I would pick it up kiss it and say something like "pleasure to meet you *insert name*" with a big grin. What do you guys think?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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headFirst

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I think you'd prob come off as creepy honestly. I mean unless you look like a model, or like you belong on one of those erotic birthday cards from spencers..
 

Iceberg

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Reeks of effort.

"Hey, lady. Don't you see how sexy I am? I am kissing your hand. And smiling."

I mean, whatever works for you. I'm not a "natural", but I have plenty of natural friends...never seen anyone do your routine before.
 

ganda1f91

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I could see it being a little creepy, maybe, but I'm not sure about extremely. It doesn't seem like you have a terrible amount to lose by trying it though.
 

AAAgent

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Seems creepy but you can always try it out on a girl and then get your answer that way.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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loveshogun

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Iceberg said:
I mean, whatever works for you. I'm not a "natural", but I have plenty of natural friends...never seen anyone do your routine before.
I have pulled off the "kissing the hand thing," a few times before, but only at formal events. It helps to know ballroom dancing.

Anyway, it's just, like anything else, part of an image. If you seem like you're forcing it, it won't work.

Also, again, context. Formal events, ****tail parties, this kind of thing can be great. Works for me.

I wouldn't do it in a mall.
 

Gro0ver

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Eugh, kissing hand = sleeze.

How about just talking to her and smiling like she's a normal human being.
 
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