Intorversion - (SERIOUSLY) help me make it a plus to get women!

[Call_Me_Daddy]

Personally, when a girl realizes that you are not very talkative and you are introverted, but still masculine and good looking - sexual attraction is still there.

So what are you worried about? You answered your own question.

 

[Babnik]

Introverts who have innate confidence exist d!ckhead. Just because you were a depressed and fvcked up introvert don't mean ****. Don't say **** you don't know anything about. Alot of CEO's including Bill Gates and entrenprenuers like Donald Trump have achieved success through their own means and did not need to socialize with others to validate their existence.

And I am sure Trump plenty of pu*sy!

 

[Babnik]

So what are you worried about? You answered your own question.

Not all girls are like that. Many will flake if they are into personality more than looks.

Lone wolves love introverts. But girls in groups where there is SO much socializing going on put me at a block. I get lost in a crowd and have no idea what people are even talking about.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

For fvck sakes, intoversion does not mean you are shy, have low self-esteem or are socially inept! Stop mixing those all up. It just means that you tend to focus more on your own thoughts and feelings than on the environment/people around you. You feed off of your OWN energy and do not need people around. You are fine being by yourself and don't need to be the centre of attention.

Again, it does NOT mean you are shy, have low self-esteem or are socially inept. Introverts can easily be confident and out-going individuals with excellent social skills.

 

[rocco]

and this whole time,.. ive thought introversion was a personality fault. i guess some of you are saying it is not. before, ive read on this forum that guys need to BE extroverts in order to be a true don juan.

 

[Thomas94305]

Like the others, I'm sceptical as to if you are introverted, or need to get over some shyness. With that disclaimer said.. let me assume that you are just introverted...

As for game, you would have more of that detachment from situations, women's games, aloofness, etc. That's great for game. You'd still need to open, and initiate. You simply cannot say "nothing" and expect the women to flock. But, a good ability to initiate combined with less dependency on outcome could be powerful.

 

[Babnik]

Like the others, I'm sceptical as to if you are introverted, or need to get over some shyness. With that disclaimer said.. let me assume that you are just introverted...

As for game, you would have more of that detachment from situations, women's games, aloofness, etc. That's great for game. You'd still need to open, and initiate. You simply cannot say "nothing" and expect the women to flock. But, a good ability to initiate combined with less dependency on outcome could be powerful.

True, but its difficult to be C+F for example. Most guys do C+F with small talk/fluff talk. I have just little to say to her so what I do is just ask her questions (without giving a slightest f*ck how she answers them) and lead the conversion wherever (often fails because they see me just PULLING words out of my mouth). The good part is when they ask questions and I don't answer them and go around and around. They laugh at that.

So, I just need to pretend better at doing the small talk, but I feel like a loser because its not me, but me TRYING to be interesting.

Seriously, I get HOOKED on conversations about politics with girls! Its INTERESTING, but they don't think so...

 

[vagrant]

i never knew such a thing...i've always thought that introvert is all in all being shy...i'm definitely an introvert from reading the article and it really doesn't affect me when it comes to women, though sometimes they would ask me..."am i boring you?"...for short term it's cool...but for long term, you gotta mix it up a little bit...there's nothing wrong with being introvert, but if you want more friends (girlfriend) you really gotta go out there and not just act like you care!~

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

i never knew such a thing...i've always thought that introvert is all in all being shy...i'm definitely an introvert from reading the article and it really doesn't affect me when it comes to women, though sometimes they would ask me..."am i boring you?"...for short term it's cool...but for long term, you gotta mix it up a little bit...there's nothing wrong with being introvert, but if you want more friends (girlfriend) you really gotta go out there and not just act like you care!~

Yeah just to clear someone up. Introversion and extroversion unfortunately have been given double meanings. It is one of those things where a "scientific" word/term is used with a different meaning in regular language.

Introversion and extroversion were defined scientifically (through psychological studies) as a person being either interested in the people/environment (extrovert) or a person being interested in themselves and turning inward (introvert). Of course lay people who don't understand much about science decided the terms mean shy or outgoing, which is a really dumbed down and incorrect interpretation.

 

[wolf116]

You know Ryan of the OC. He's an introvert. Dose he get chicks, yes.
I know it isn't real life but allot of introverts get girls chasing them. Could you imagine him asking for a girls number?

Like me for example. Girls like to come and talk to me because I'm always chilled out and approachable. But I would like to be able to get the girl I want, that is why i am here.

C&F doesn't work so well for us. it isn't our style, I can be funny but in a serious way. I just pick all the stuff that I feel comfortable doing. Like negs, kino, thinking about fvcking her while your talking to her, staring in her eyes, directing conversations towards sex, repeating her name, tell a story ect.

I never open more than one chick. It's just to much for me. I like opening chicks sitting alone. Or ones I meet through friends/school/work. Most mysterious men are introverts. If you use it right it can work.

 

[Babnik]

But like at a party where everyone is standing and talking non-stop, I often just quit on that and find a place to sit down by myself.

THEN, girls find me very approachable and they come talk to me. However, they ask "Why are you alone?" and its not that I am all alone, but for a while I need my alone time. I can know everyone at a party, but I just want to be alone for a while. However, I feel that those girls feel PITY for me or something. I don't need pity, I like that.

So, the good part is that they do come and approach, but the bad part is that I don't know what to tell them about me being alone...

 

[Latinoman]

Being an Introvert is NOT a bad thing. Being an Extrovert is NOT a bad thing.

Being SHY is bad. Being ARROGANT is bad.


An introvert typically gets his energy from within. The extrovert gets his from the outer.


An introvert as well as an extrovert, both can socialize. One prefer to socialize in smaller groups and the other in bigger groups.

Both can show lot of confidence too (e.g. an introvert can appear calm and self-contained).

Both can be EXTREMELY succesful. And both can be HUGE failures.


Both can be HUGE failures. Both can be EXTREMELY succesful.

For instance...some famous introverts are Clint Eastwood, Harrison Ford, Meryl Streep, Julia Roberts, David Letterman, Abraham Lincoln, Jackeline Kennedy, Michelle Pfeiffer, Tom Hanks, Prince Diana, etc.

 

[Latinoman]

that guys need to BE extroverts in order to be a true don juan.

Some of the MOST effective Don Juans (in real life) are Introverted.

Because they are calm and collective.

When I was tested (as part of a leadership course I took few years ago), I I was an extroverted, but not a strong extroverted.

 

[Latinoman]

But like at a party where everyone is standing and talking non-stop, I often just quit on that and find a place to sit down by myself.

THEN, girls find me very approachable and they come talk to me. However, they ask "Why are you alone?" and its not that I am all alone, but for a while I need my alone time. I can know everyone at a party, but I just want to be alone for a while. However, I feel that those girls feel PITY for me or something. I don't need pity, I like that.

So, the good part is that they do come and approach, but the bad part is that I don't know what to tell them about me being alone...

Change your mannerisms.

For instance (I hate to do this, but movies is the best example for me): Rusty (Brad Pitt) from Ocean's 11 is an introverted.

Watch the first movie, when he is taking a break from the morons he is teaching how to play poker. He goes to the Bar and he sits there. He sits there and get his drink because he needs some "alone" time. However, he still emanate a LOT of confidence.


Although, I'm an extroverted (not a strong one, I might add)...many times I act like an introverted. Especially when I want to keep a low profile and when I want to hide my flamboyance.

 

[Life-Trainee]

Being introverted is difficult, especially in the United States.

There is a major social stigma against introversion, as if it's a disease.
It can be quite difficult to operate in extrovert-biased environments.

You need to look outside of yourself once in a while and appreciate things about other people.

You probably project an image of a selfish unattainable person and you need to change that. You can be introverted and still be caring and charming individual.

 

[sexxyback]

Being introverted is difficult, especially in the United States.

There is a major social stigma against introversion, as if it's a disease.
It can be quite difficult to operate in extrovert-biased environments.

I don;'t think you get the difference between being 'shy' and being 'introverted'. There are a lot of very loud social butterfly type people who are introverted.

 

[Mind_Body_Soul]

I have to agree 100%. Introverts can be quite successful with women. I've always considered myself an introvert although those personality tests always put me at middle of the road.

I perform quite well in social situations but it's a facade for the most part. I'm very good at acting like a normal, social individual, but would much rather be alone a great % of the time. I consider myself a confident individual, I own my own business, I work in my boxers, I've dated a lot of women and been all over the world, but still consider myself introverted.

I see nothing at all wrong with this. I don't feel insecure around people, in fact, I love studying them. It all comes down to a matter of preference to me. I'm not greatly excited by being around people and find myself bored in most circumstances. Now get me in a room of computer geeks and I might change my tune completely, but 99% of social situations are not my bag.

 

[Mind_Body_Soul]

I don;'t think you get the difference between being 'shy' and being 'introverted'. There are a lot of very loud social butterfly type people who are introverted.

This is exactly my point.

 

[TheMainMan]

And Sean Connery and Donald Trump? Maybe they were introverts at some point but they seem fairly balanced to me.

You havent a clue. Being introverted doesnt make you unbalanced. In fact quite the opposite. Most of the successful people I know are introverted. they are generally harder working, more ambitious, high achievers, and wealthier.

Introvertion doesnt make you a social retard. Yes you have to work harder at the social skills but most introverts lead perfectly normal and generally succesful lives.

 

[Babnik]

You havent a clue. Being introverted doesnt make you unbalanced. In fact quite the opposite. Most of the successful people I know are introverted. they are generally harder working, more ambitious, high achievers, and wealthier.

Introvertion doesnt make you a social retard. Yes you have to work harder at the social skills but most introverts lead perfectly normal and generally succesful lives.

This is perfect what you said. Introverts have to WORK at social events, while extroverts ENJOY social events and get energy boost from them. Introverts use up their powers during social events.


Still, what do I say to girls when they see me alone? If I say - I am an introvert then they may get it wrong. If I say - Just having a time alone from those morons then its insulting to my friends.