"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
intimidated by white chicks.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Maybe your just attracted to white girls (which is fine) but what happens is that sometimes when a real hot chick walks in the room, she has the power to intimidate, it doesn't matter what race she is. For you it might be white girls, for other guys it might be latino or black. So like so many other people have already said here.... you just gotta just practice mental and physical excercises to get over that.
Start making eye contact with girls that attract you (white girls) and then start talking to them without thinking of them as being anything special.
I'm by no means a seasoned DJ, but I know that I have no such asian complex so I'm just trying add in my input.
Hey..it's the "Steve Urkel" of sosauve...fvcking black wimp... he gets the UGLIEST fvcking white chicks I've ever seen.
You want pics of me and my CUTE white women? I'll send them to your e mail GEORGE........I hope your competent enough to open your e mail....since I had to post your fvcking pics for you here.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Fatality,
This is part of the issue that we are debating about. The big question is WHY? Saying, "that's just the way it is" does not help us solve the problem. It just implies that this is the way the world is and we should just accept it. If we could find out why this happens then we could try to solve it. Maybe it's discrimination, prejudice, stereotyping.
Penkitten,
This by far has to be some of the worst piece of idealistic garbage that I have seen on this board.
It would be ideal if everyone just magically realized that everyone should be treated equally and that skin color should not mater. However, we live in a complex society with norms and values. The reasoning behind the lack of interracial couples is complex, but one thing that prevents interracial couples is a norm that says interracial dating is not fully accepted or okay.
In general, minorities tend to be looked down upon as having "lower status". One reason why black athletic jocks get white women is because they have the jock/athletic status which somewhat compensates for the overall lower status attributed to minorities. The black guys who get HOT white women are either jocks or have a lot of money because these are both status symbols which compensate for the overall lower status that society gives to minorities. Women want high status males. If male minorities are looked down upon as having less status because of their race then white women will prefer to marry white men because society says that white men are "higher" than minorities in status.
Have you ever noticed that you will never see a black woman with a high status white male? One reason is because of the way society structured. Men like attractiveness. Society contributes to the notion that black women are less attractive than white women. Personally, I find black women unattractive in comparison to white or Spanish women. The way society is structured probably has a contributing factor.
It is who a woman is inside that counts, so that is why the cosmetic industry is a multi-billion dollar a year industry.
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or maybe its just you grow up with say a white mom or a black mom etc, and go to school/grow up with other people of your colur, so therefore you learn to be attracted to your own race, or maybe it is just a natural thing.
I have still not even seen those ones yet. How about you do it right this time? Upload the pics to this site.
http://imageshack.us/
It takes only 1 or 2 mins and you don't even have to register.
Btw send me your pics too. So I can compare
Many people are attracted to people that have the same qualities of their parents. Environment has something to do with it too. If there aren't many different ethnicities in your area that could have an effect and yes sometimes it has something to do with the three things you mentioned.
Some people may be attracted to people of different races but won't give them a chance because their parents or grandparents might be against it or are worried about what other people would think when they are out.
I also feel when choosing a long term partner most people want them to be the same race because they want their kids to be just like them.
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Well put.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Heads up on zolo. We found out the he lives only 15 minutes from me. I tried sending him pics repeatedly, and he doesn't get them. I offered to have him come here in person and see the pics, he refused.
He then offered to have me come up by him, I gladly accepted. BUT HE WOULDN'T TELL ME WHERE TO MEET HIM TO SHOW THE PICS. I EVEN OFFERED TO PAY FOR HIS GAS!!!!!!!
We found out that his pictures are from a website. WE BUSTED HIM!!!! and he admitted it was true...
We also found out the he COLLECTS PICTURES OFF THE INTERNET...HE'S A LITTLE FVCKING PERVERT....
I offered to meet this guy man to man. Told him my real name...and he wouldn't come. He talks crap from behind his computer screen, and won't even show up to look at some pics.
As far as the racial slur comment. this guy is one of the most RACIST people you'll ever meet. I called him some names, but they had nothing to do with his skin color...he's a little *****
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Black bas@ard
Nivver
aren't terms against my skin color.
You wanted me to come meet you at a millitary Base after sounding like a bunch of biggiots. OK I will be there with bells on.
I never said I got those pics of the web
That is a lie you told, just like you are lieing that you sent me pics
I know white chicks never hook up with Black Guys
Madonna
Carmen Electra
Pam Anderson
Paula Abdoul
Nikki Rotalano
Heidi Klum
Cindy Crawford
Nikki Zering
Sandra Bullock
Faith Hill
Jessica Alba
Brittney Spears
Christina Aguleria
Bo Derek
Many of the Playboy Playmates
And many other famous white girls who could have any man they want have all dated black guys.
All of these girls have admitted to dating black guys on the Howard Stern Show. Howrd always asks that question, and I would say the majority of the women say they have dated a black man at one time or another
A few of those women dated black men...not all of them have...no where near..Stern is a fvcking pansy..and people spew bullshyt on his show....
SHOW THE IM CONVERSATION...YOU'RE A FVCKING RACIST BLACK WIMP..YEAH I CALLED YOU AN "N"..THAT'S EXACTLY WHAT YOU ARE..NOTHING TO DO WITH SKIN COLOR.....THEY COME IN ALL RACES...
I'LL SHOW YOU WHERE YOU ADMITTED THAT THOSE PICS CAME FROM A WEBSITE...POST THE CONVO ON HERE....
THEN YOU CALL US BIGOTS?...YOU'LL BE HERE WITH BELLS ON?? WELL COME HERE.....I INVITED YOU......YOU'RE TOO MUCH OF A ***** TO SHOW UP.....
I'LL SHOW YOU CUTE WHITE WOMEN IN PERSON....YOU'RE JUST TOO FVCKING SCARED TO STEP FROM BEHIND YOUR COMPUTER SCREEN.....
THIS GUY IS CONVINCED ALL WHITE WOMEN WANT BLACK MEN...HE'S CONVINCED WHITE PEOPLE ARE AFRAID OF HIM BECAUSE HE'S BLACK..LOL.....BUT HE WON'T SHOW UP??????
I HAVE COPIES OF THE PICS ZOLO SENT TO ME IN E MAIL...THEY ARE FROM A COMMERCIAL WEBSITE!!!! I CAN PROVE THAT..
HE USED MANY RACIAL SLURS AGAINST WHITES IN HIS E MAILS TO ME...I CAN SHOW THEM TOO...
:crackup:
Madonna- Married some white English dude.
Paula Abdoul-- She's been linked to almost ever race. She did marry Emilio Estevez...he's white and hispanic....she was rumored to have dated Arsenio Hall....but paula ISN'T WHITE....not that that matters...but keep things in perspective...
Carmen elektra- married dave navarro...(although she would have been better off with a black dude)
Pam Anderson- MARRIED Tommy Lee, and dated Kid Rock
Heidi klum- married seal...ok you got one there...(and Heidi is HOT...but take into consideration "seal" is also famous)
Cindy Crawford- married Richard Gere..now another WHITE DUDE.
Sandra Bullock is probably gay....
Faith Hill- married Tim Mc Graw...this one I almost pissed my pants laughing at..Faith has NEVER been tied to a black man.
Brittney Spears- dated Justin Timberlake, and married Kevin Federline..BOTH WHITE
Christina aguilera- married some white dude who was her manager...she's hispanic by the way..
Bo Derek--married John Derek..WHITE DUDE...
The Playboy Playmates are *****s who'd fvck anyone who paid them...
Whether any of these women dated black men at one time, I don't know. Except for Heidi Klum and Carmen Elektra.....
The point is most of them ended up with WHITE MEN. I know it's hard for you to realize this zolo, but it's the truth bro.
Most black people are good, honest folks. I realize there is good and bad in every race. It's these little "thug" types like zolo I have a problem with. Their hatred for white people underlies everything they do, but when a white person stands up to them, THEY USE THE RACE CARD.
Your list is shyt, and so are you zolo....
DlxX I can email you the pics I sent jprjrjr of me and the girls, there are 3 differant ones that depict me and those girls. They are real and not from any website.
You can decide for yourself if they are real of fake.
I also sent him other ones of my friends with white girls dancing/hanging out with at parties/clubs
These are all real.
The pictures he is questioning, are ones of sexual content. He probably found them on a website some where and is saying that I sent them to him.
The truth is he never sent me any pics, and IU sent him pics that clearly shows me with girls, he cant even do that much.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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