"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Intimidated by Independence?

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It seems as if girls (women) are intimidated by a man's independence. I live on my own, work for myself and do pretty much as I please. I live life by my own rules... not those set out for us by society. I don't need a woman to be happy and I would only seriously date one if she made me a better person.

But it seems as though once they realize this, they start losing interest. It's almost as if they are getting self-conscious saying "why does he want to date me?"

I just don't understand. Their insecurities have forced me to become insecure with myself. Is there something wrong with me? Am I too skinny? Too independent? Too available? I just don't know.

Every fecking loser on this planet has a girlfriend and here I am playing "the system" and I'm getting blown off by a lot of them. I'm starting to think that "the system" has flaws in it.

Here is my "myspace" to give you a little better idea of who I am. www.myspace.com/letsgettoxic

Any help or insight would be appreciated.

Thanks guys.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You are wrong. A man's independence attracts women (and of course challenges and frustrates them too!)

There is something else. More details needed.

The fact that you are allowing things to get to you and become insecure is a problem in itself.

How can you become insecure about being independent?

Too available? Maybe. But how could that be with all the stuff you have going on? Hmm.

If you really don't need a woman to be happy, why do you observe that every fvcking loser has a girlfriend but you?

What are some examples of how you use "the system" and how you get blown off?

Bottom line, you're not getting these girls to feel something for you, right? So you may be independent and all that, but somehow leave them cold? Maybe you're too serious and don't exude warmth toward them? Who knows.

Details, details!
 
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don't worry about it too much, dude.

you are not living by your own rules if you worry about this ****. Just have fun, fvck *****es, take care of your business and friends before everything else, and you'll be fine.
 
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