"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Interviewing question

tristan22

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I don't study work ethics/law, so I’m not sure what kind of rights I have as a hiree. I have always thought that a potential employer contacting a former employer is a little invasive and completely unnecessary.

Is it illegal for an employer to discuss you, without obtaining permission first?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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PiHiPlaya

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I'm pretty sure it's legal.

But if they do talk to an old employer and you end up not getting the job just sue your old employer for slander:up:
 

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From experience, former employees are usually ticked off when you leave their company. So why wouldn't they try to prevent you from getting a new job--a job of your choice?

THis is why i'm against potential employees contacting former employees. People are bitter in general!
 

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Originally posted by tristan22
Is it illegal for an employer to discuss you, without obtaining permission first?
Nope.
Originally posted by PiHiPlaya
But if they do talk to an old employer and you end up not getting the job just sue your old employer for slander
It'd be nice, but unless your former employer actually makes a false statement of fact that injures your reputation it doesn't count. If you were always late and they tell your potential company about it, it's not slander - it's truth.
 
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