YT827 said:
I'm a black guy that's been with a fair share of black and white girls (and one latina). Many of the black girls I've been with could have turned into relationships, but I really want to have a LTR with a white or asian girl. The white girls I had sex with in the past only wanted short-term relationships. A couple weeks of sex and that's it.
How can I peep out the white and/or asian girls that want to get serious with me? I don't view girls of other races as a fetish or novelty, and I'm tired of girls viewing me that way.
Any suggestions? Any activities I should take up that has open-minded white females?
Why do you reject black women as long term material? And why is it that every black dude on this forum only wants a white or Asian chic? I'm all cool with IR dating, but it seems to only go in one direction around here.
Anyway, to answer the question, use better screening. Just like gays have gaydar and can sense when someone is gay, I have a sort of radar that goes off when I see white chics that I know like black dudes. Almost every white chic that has a body like a black girl, thick(not necessarily fat though) with a ghetto booty is often into black dudes. I don't know why, but white girls with black girl type of bodies tend to be open to black guys. Maybe it's because white guys like thin women and they find themselves rejected by white men for being too "fat". I also notice they tend to wear certain types of hairstyles and even earrings. If a white chic has her hair pulled back into a slick ponytail and wears large hoop earrings and has a thick ass like a black girl, I can bet you almost anything she likes black dudes. Now if on top of that she wears a lot of makeup and is into black music, it's virtually a sure thing at that point. They will also have a different way of talking a lot of time. They will sound less stereotypical white, and may have a more urban manner of talking. I don't mean imitating ebonics or acting like wiggers(I hate those type of white chics), but who seem like they know whats up and probably have friends from many different backgrounds.
I'm going to go out on a limb and say something that may piss some people off. MOST whites are racist. Yes I said it. The average white American is racist. Not racist in a neo-nazi type of way, but racist in a "I don't mind a few blacks moving into the neighborhood so long as they aren't dating my daughter" type of racist. There is such a thing as white privilege, which is a certain unspoken status whites get that puts them at the top of the heirachy with blacks at the bottom and Asians and Hispanics in the middle. Whites instinctively know how the game works. Well as soon as they date a black, they instantly lose their membership in the elite white club. That's why many white men will NOT date a white woman if they found out that she has dated black men before. She is like a fallen angel to them. She's been stigmatized. So most white women don't want to date blacks seriously because they will lose their "good standing" with white society and the privileges that come along with it. If you are her serious boyfriend, now she's got to worry what's going to happen when she walks into the company Christmas party on your arm and how her coworkers will react and a million little things like that.
So if you're going to go for a white chic, it has to be one that deeply understands racism and white privilege and it's social implications and rejects it unambiguously and could care less about appeasing white society for the sake of keeping her "good standing" with the family and white friends. Who views herself as an individual first and white second. And who views you as an individual first and black second. If she's the type of person that's afraid to discuss race or is uneasy with the topic, that's a bad sign.
So if you have to date white, that would be my suggestion. At the same time though, it makes no sense to bar black women from LTRs. There are wonderful and beautiful black women out there. They aren't all ghetto and ignorant. Plus you get the added benefit of not having to put up with racist bullshyte from families.
ps - Hispanic and Asian families are probably twice as fanatical as whites about keeping their daughters away from black men.