"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I'd appreciate some mature, sane advice, if possible.

Been through too many bad relationships, so decided recently to try internet dating. Signed up to okcupid.com. Within a few days, found a really cool chick. Not conventially hot, more my kind of girl: pretty, bit geeky and most important friendly and down to earth.

Anyway, we've chatted on and off for around a month now, on IM, webcam, video chat and most recently phone and SMS. I've been witty/charming, basically myself with her and she's responded extremely well.

Dont normally develop feelings for a girl online, but it's started to happen. She's real, cause we actually discovered a connection through old friends, plus the video chat.

Basically last night she confessed she is somewhere between "liking" me and "really liking" me. She's always talking to me online and always checking my webpage. She's even suggested making another trip across to where I live (we live about 80 miles away) before she returns to Asia on her exchange year.

So how should I proceed? Things have gone a little weird since last night when she told me those things. I dont even know if she meant them romantically or just a friend. She's said i'm cute before, and above her level of attractiveness for a guy and she always comments on how well we get on, how much we have in common.

As I say though, things have gone weird. Any suggestions? On how to proceed from now/squeeze out her true feelings for me? Or just general. I dont mind, whatever, But I do think she's unlike anyone i've ever met and I must admit i'm starting to really like her.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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just let it flow. don't tell her you you're in love or nothing which you aren't yet by what you've said. let her know also you like her and enjoying talking to her. if she wants to come, let her. she sounds nice. don't think too hard about it man... like i said, let it flow, keep talking to her and things will happen on it's own.
 

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i appreciate the advice, but anything a little more specific would also be helpful.
 

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  1. You two haven't met.
  2. She's leaving for another country.
Take a moment and truly think about this.
 

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What I think and what that chick think is that you are desparate to be talking to her (she's not even that pretty or have qualities one would desire).

Meeting you? Sure. Until she comes over to your place to meet you and you two hit it, she's just an attention wh0re. Believe me, she's talking to you that nice because she thinks you're a nice guy. She wishes someone would pimp her and take her cherry right that day, but you is all she can pull off for now, maybe not just you but several dudes your rank. Just the mere fact that's she not a top notch means she needs her ego stroked.

Find women free here www.plentyoffish.com ............. better yet next time you go out find some real women that will improve your game. I don't mean find one and stick to her until you marry, find one, find next one, and then the next one, and you don't stop. Sample your ladies if you want to find one that is really good.


Tell her to come over sometime to meet you. If she does, then you two can hit it, if she makes excuses, like I don't know when or anything at all other than coming over, then she just wants attention from you, attention wh0re.. That also means she's getting attention from more than one guy, and most probably getting her kitty scratched from a real pimp.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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