"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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thursday

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I'd appreciate some mature, sane advice, if possible.

Been through too many bad relationships, so decided recently to try internet dating. Signed up to okcupid.com. Within a few days, found a really cool chick. Not conventially hot, more my kind of girl: pretty, bit geeky and most important friendly and down to earth.

Anyway, we've chatted on and off for around a month now, on IM, webcam, video chat and most recently phone and SMS. I've been witty/charming, basically myself with her and she's responded extremely well.

Dont normally develop feelings for a girl online, but it's started to happen. She's real, cause we actually discovered a connection through old friends, plus the video chat.

Basically last night she confessed she is somewhere between "liking" me and "really liking" me. She's always talking to me online and always checking my webpage. She's even suggested making another trip across to where I live (we live about 80 miles away) before she returns to Asia on her exchange year.

So how should I proceed? Things have gone a little weird since last night when she told me those things. I dont even know if she meant them romantically or just a friend. She's said i'm cute before, and above her level of attractiveness for a guy and she always comments on how well we get on, how much we have in common.

As I say though, things have gone weird. Any suggestions? On how to proceed from now/squeeze out her true feelings for me? Or just general. I dont mind, whatever, But I do think she's unlike anyone i've ever met and I must admit i'm starting to really like her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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just let it flow. don't tell her you you're in love or nothing which you aren't yet by what you've said. let her know also you like her and enjoying talking to her. if she wants to come, let her. she sounds nice. don't think too hard about it man... like i said, let it flow, keep talking to her and things will happen on it's own.
 

thursday

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i appreciate the advice, but anything a little more specific would also be helpful.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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  1. You two haven't met.
  2. She's leaving for another country.
Take a moment and truly think about this.
 

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..........and then, and then read up definition of AFC



What I think and what that chick think is that you are desparate to be talking to her (she's not even that pretty or have qualities one would desire).

Meeting you? Sure. Until she comes over to your place to meet you and you two hit it, she's just an attention wh0re. Believe me, she's talking to you that nice because she thinks you're a nice guy. She wishes someone would pimp her and take her cherry right that day, but you is all she can pull off for now, maybe not just you but several dudes your rank. Just the mere fact that's she not a top notch means she needs her ego stroked.

Find women free here www.plentyoffish.com ............. better yet next time you go out find some real women that will improve your game. I don't mean find one and stick to her until you marry, find one, find next one, and then the next one, and you don't stop. Sample your ladies if you want to find one that is really good.


Tell her to come over sometime to meet you. If she does, then you two can hit it, if she makes excuses, like I don't know when or anything at all other than coming over, then she just wants attention from you, attention wh0re.. That also means she's getting attention from more than one guy, and most probably getting her kitty scratched from a real pimp.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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