Internet dating is far fetched ... don't do it ...

[Luveno]

What I meant was neat facial hair, not a pubestache. Perhaps an EVEN five-oclock shadow.

 

[rgeere]

Originally posted by TillTheEndOfTime
I guess you did not look at all his pictures.....

No, he didn't ... if he did he would have realized that I was actually closer to looking the way he advised.

 

[rgeere]

Originally posted by Luveno
What I meant was neat facial hair, not a pubestache. Perhaps an EVEN five-oclock shadow.

I don't know if you saw these, the first one I have on hotornot right now ..

http://i4.photobucket.com/albums/y117/rmcnew/MyPicture015.jpg
http://i4.photobucket.com/albums/y117/rmcnew/MyPicture014.jpg

 

[Luveno]

ACtually I did look at your pictures. Allow me to elaborate:

1. Your facial hair in your later pictures isn't neat. It appears unkempt. You look like Kurt Cobain.

2. That long hair isn't styled. It looks, again, unkempt, almost like John Connor or Bryan Adams circa 1997 .

3. Dress better. The cowboy hat doesn't make you Mr. pret-a-porter.


If you did indeed lose the glasses permanently, good.

TO me, you still appear as if you're trying to impress someone in those pictures. That's more something you have to work on from the inside.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Luveno
I will have to disagree with this. Hotornot is the best online dating site out there, for a number of reasons:

1. It's concise: You know what you're getting. There's no huge profiles you have to sift through, and no huge photo albums of girls' cats and j-lo and all that junk. Its a profile you won't read, and one pic that you rate yes or no. Thats it.

Well, I guess not everyone is picky about who they choose to go out with.

 

[rgeere]

Originally posted by Luveno
ACtually I did look at your pictures. Allow me to elaborate:

1. Your facial hair in your later pictures isn't neat. It appears unkempt. You look like Kurt Cobain.

2. That long hair isn't styled. It looks, again, unkempt, almost like John Connor or Bryan Adams circa 1997 .

3. Dress better. The cowboy hat doesn't make you Mr. pret-a-porter.


If you did indeed lose the glasses permanently, good.

TO me, you still appear as if you're trying to impress someone in those pictures. That's more something you have to work on from the inside.

I like your advice, but can you elaborate more on how it looks like I am trying to impress someone?

Surely you can't mean that by the way I look if you say I am unkempt ... there has to be some other clues that made you come to that conclusion.

 

[gmm567]

this post is wild

You can't even see his face and he's rated a 9.9.

Then the legs open. My god.

We need more posts like this. Who out there has improved
there ratings? What did they do?


Geoff
7.2 to 9!

 

[rgeere]

Re: this post is wild

Originally posted by gmm567
You can't even see his face and he's rated a 9.9.

Then the legs open. My god.

We need more posts like this. Who out there has improved
there ratings? What did they do?


Geoff
7.2 to 9!

What are you talking about?

Yeah, high ratings mean jack ...

 

[Luveno]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Well, I guess not everyone is picky about who they choose to go out with.

That was quite the sarcastic remark -did you have a bad day?

Of course I am picky about who I go out with, but I fail to see how reading a long winded profile can differentiate between potential candidates. I will explain my train of thought:


The difference between written word and face-to-face convo is that one is utilateral, and the other is bilateral.

Since when online the only thing I care about is looks, I judge whether or not I want to meet them based on that alone. It is similar to real life: you approach someone based on primarily looks. There are no profiles to read.

Reading a profile that is too long is a waste of my time. If hotornot did have gigantic profiles I still wouldn't read them. Girls can LIE about themselves in their profile. There is no way for one to "cross-examine: a profile, and thus there is very little advantage to actually reading one.

In summary, my 'mechanism' for online dating is:

1. Is she attractive? If so, meet them.

2. Set a date. Maybe chat a bit to make sure she's not insane.

3. Meet in person. This is where interaction counts. Based on how you interact with her, a decision can be made to pursue further or not.

That's how I think. Now tell me how you think.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Luveno
That was quite the sarcastic remark -did you have a bad day?

Of course I am picky about who I go out with, but I fail to see how reading a long winded profile can differentiate between potential candidates. I will explain my train of thought:


The difference between written word and face-to-face convo is that one is utilateral, and the other is bilateral.

Since when online the only thing I care about is looks, I judge whether or not I want to meet them based on that alone. It is similar to real life: you approach someone based on primarily looks. There are no profiles to read.

Reading a profile that is too long is a waste of my time. If hotornot did have gigantic profiles I still wouldn't read them. Girls can LIE about themselves in their profile. There is no way for one to "cross-examine: a profile, and thus there is very little advantage to actually reading one.

In summary, my 'mechanism' for online dating is:

1. Is she attractive? If so, meet them.

2. Set a date. Maybe chat a bit to make sure she's not insane.

3. Meet in person. This is where interaction counts. Based on how you interact with her, a decision can be made to pursue further or not.

That's how I think. Now tell me how you think.

I'm picky.

 

[Luveno]

Hello rgeere,

I will explain myself in better detail. Perhaps this will shed light on my opinion.

The unkemptness I speak of is:

1. Your facial hair/shadow or whatever does not grow evenly around the "beard" area of your face. It does not appear that your moustache connects to your chin-goatee. Not many people can pull a split goatee like that off. So I'd suggest growing the shadow evenly around your face. If you can't, shave clean until you can.

2. The hair actually does look greasy...kind of patted down, like you stuck your head in corn syrup and combed it down. This is in no way meant to be offensive. I would suggest you do a search on mens hairstyles and find some threads. There you can find links to pictures of hairstyles that may interest you.

I've always been sort of anti-cam. It seems webcam pics always have people posing for them, looking like they want people to notice them. Real photographs can have that spontaneous quality to them, where the person doesn't look posed. I would suggest getting a photo with better lighting(but not stark like your hat/glasses pic)after you've further improved your look.

Good luck man.

However, the improvement between those 2 cam pictures and your initial glasses pics is very remarkable. You're on the right track.

 

[al77]

Originally posted by rgeere

Well, either I am bragging, or opening myself up to the risk of getting praise or critcism which can either positivelly or negitivelly affect my self-esteeme; girls find the second option more attractive, so I am sticking with that explanation.

Chick in striped pants? Since now you have first plump girl - I really like her, to me she is very cute.
Striped pants chick is not cute... but it is just my opinion.
Besides she is posing a bit too much for a pic.

I have no idea what you are talking about - your religion and LTR?
C'mon. If you want her to be of the same realigion - ok. But it is not an attraction. It is either a requirement or a preference.
Anyway, for my taste her face is not hot at all....

The chick in blue looks good, but seems shallow - I would agree with you.

I think you do brag about - I checked out your profile... you said "charismatic" hmmm....you know, it is much better to show it, instead of directly saying it without backing it up.
It is not very bad though, some chick dig it... some dont. I just believe in common sense, and common sense chicks don't like when a guy openly showing off with some qualities.. without being able to prove it. Just my opinion.

 

[al77]

Originally posted by rgeere
I don't know if you saw these, the first one I have on hotornot right now ..

http://i4.photobucket.com/albums/y117/rmcnew/MyPicture015.jpg
http://i4.photobucket.com/albums/y117/rmcnew/MyPicture014.jpg

Pic#1 is the best of your pics. Yeah.. hair is a bit too long...the pic is a bit dark..

If you add more light you can significantly improve the pic: same idea...but a) more light b) plane backgorund

 

[rgeere]

Originally posted by al77
I think you do brag about - I checked out your profile... you said "charismatic" hmmm....you know, it is much better to show it, instead of directly saying it without backing it up.
It is not very bad though, some chick dig it... some dont. I just believe in common sense, and common sense chicks don't like when a guy openly showing off with some qualities.. without being able to prove it. Just my opinion.

That's a good point ... I might get better results if I don't appear so mysterious and superficial myself.

Not that I intend to show off, it is just sort of my nature to advertise what I can and can't do. Not that I mean to make things up, some people might come to that conclusion.

 

[rgeere]

Originally posted by Luveno
Good Luck! However, the improvement between those 2 cam pictures and your initial glasses pics is very remarkable. You're on the right track.

I think I will take your advice, thank you ...

 

[al77]

Originally posted by rgeere

Not that I intend to show off, it is just sort of my nature to advertise what I can and can't do.

Not that I mean to make things up, some people might come to that conclusion.

It really doesnt matter even if you make them up - if you able to back it up in the profile - you are in. It how it works.
So if you just do teh first part, i.e. show off a bit and dont back it up with some kind of written "proof".. well, it doesnt look good to people who have some common sense.

Advertising: Lets see... a beer commerical where a guy with a double chin and double stomach drink some yyy beer and immediately he gets a HB10 model next to him.
Conclusion: chicks, hot chicks dig beer drinker with a double chin?

Good advertising includes lots of showing off PLUS some proof that their product can actually deliver all of those things.
If you just say "Hey, this is the best shoes.. buy them!" it doesn't make any sense even if you put 10 HB10 next to an ugly guy who is wearing them.
Same things are applicable to any kind of profiles...it is all common sense in my opinion.