Marcopolo
Senior Don Juan
okay, I was being a little sarcastic there(but it was fun), I just have writers block thinking of what to write exactly. Don't take it seriously what I wrote. I just have to think of something different and good I guess.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Here are a few things that I follow when meeting online women:Originally posted by Immaculate
yeah I hear you bro.. the friend thing she hasn't brought up but I was just thinking maybe she might think of that and call me and tell me "i want to bring my friend"... I mean with all the psychos in the world I wouldn't blame her.. but lucky for her I'm no psycho.
So if she calls me and says that I should say no?
SO what do u think about watching Scarface .. I don't think she's seen it.. it's my favorite flick.
Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Here are a few things that I follow when meeting online women:
- I don't meet at either of our homes. YES, there are psychos out there so meeting someplace public is a good thing to allow her to become comfortable with you.
- About tagalongs, if she suggests bringing a friend tell her that you'd rather focus your attention on getting to know her and after you determine that she's cool enough to have cool friends, you'd be willing to meet them too. If she is uptight about the 'psycho' thing, suggest changing venues to someplace more public.
- Movie wise, I wouldn't go there until you get to have a good vibe about her and her likes. Use this time to find out those things about her that could make or break your relationship. This is the time for a lot of conversation. Add KINO to taste before serving dessert...
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She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
It all depends on what happens tomorrow. Don't sweat it. For now just go out with some buds and sarge at a club or two. A DJ can never have too much practice.Originally posted by Immaculate
Francisco, check this out:
She just called me and said she has a big problem. She said her friend got something stuck in her eye and she has to take her to the emergency room.. I don't know to believe this or not. She talked about how her friend doesn't have insurance and this and that. She said she might not be able to come over tonight because of this. Then she said she will come over tonight late if her friend is OK after the hospital. If her friend isn't OK she will come over tomorrow. She sounded really stressed over the phone. All I said was " no problem girl, you have to take care of your friends first" and she said " thank you so much I hope you aren't mad". I just said no problem.... do you think this girl is lying or this situation really happened??
Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
It all depends on what happens tomorrow. Don't sweat it. For now just go out with some buds and sarge at a club or two. A DJ can never have too much practice.
You are in the perfect spot, keep your stable of fillies in rotation! So when/if the other one calls tomorrow, just tell her you're hanging out with friends and give her that you can get together on such 'n such day. The great thing about your situation is that it definitely combats one-itis!Originally posted by Immaculate
Well now the problem is I have another girl who I used to go out with call me tonight and she says she wants to come over tomorrow. I told her it's cool, come over.
Things are getting sticky for me here.. oh well I'll work it out!
Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
You are in the perfect spot, keep your stable of fillies in rotation! So when/if the other one calls tomorrow, just tell her you're hanging out with friends and give her that you can get together on such 'n such day. The great thing about your situation is that it definitely combats one-itis!![]()
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
So what did you decide about the other one that you were going to hang out with today? Did you put her off???Originally posted by Immaculate
Francisco how's it going today my bud..
Well here's the update! The Latina girl from match just called me and said she is coming over tonight in a couple hours. I think she was telling the truth last night because she kept saying how her friend still can't see and she is very worried about the emergency room bills. Anyway, the girl looks cute as hell from her match pics so wish me luck ! I'll keep ya updated. Meanwhile, I'm gonna relax myself and take a few shots of liquor so I can get my game on.
Peace brother!
Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
So what did you decide about the other one that you were going to hang out with today? Did you put her off???![]()
Originally posted by DJohnson
Cool man very cool. Sounds like you are on the right track. Just remember don't devole into a symp!
Regards,
DJ
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That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Not bad, not bad at all. I do suggest that you keep her around for at least a little while. Just see her maybe once a week or so and start building your stable.Originally posted by Immaculate
Well fellas here's the update,
she came over, we started drinking, smoking cigs and having a pretty good time. We watched half of scarface and then she wanted me to hear some music so we played that CD for awhile. Eventualy we ended up in bed and I hit that for about an hour ! lol and I never even finished because when I drink alot of booze I can last forever. She said I'm the only guy to ever make her c*m twice.
Well, this is the first girl I ever banged off the internet. I feel bad though because I have no feelings for this girl at all.. it was just a confidence builder for me. Now I feel like going back on match and getting more booty.
Peace fellas!
Please don't say that you want DJs to post their lines so that you can use them...Originally posted by Immaculate
Why did this cat Metaphysikal_Lover get banned?
He has some great chat logs posted in this thread that have helped me out.
We need some more good chat logs in this thread... chat logs that get the chic... bring em on!
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.