"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Internal Conflict

AC/DC

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I have an internal conflict.... it's actually a very interesting conflict...

Should I be:
A) The person society teaches me to be, a player who doesn't take crap from any female and recognizes no one as his superior, or should I be
B) The person my dad wants me to be, a gentleman who dones't let women get the best of him but still tolerates women for that is their nature.

I just broke up with a girl I liked a lot because she was unreceptive and very difficult towards me, and I wondered how I should respond when your girl is a heartless *****: like a genthleman or like a player?

I can be both, but I'm more satisfied with being the player.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Need-2-B-Pimpin

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What about C) Who you want to be?

Or are you trying to decide that?
If so, then I doin't think that's something you should be asking us. Am I missing something?
 

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Worst mistake you can do is to do what I did after a breakup...Think about it and call her a bitch. What happened happened. Now as far as how you should act...Be both. Be the player that takes no shit but also be the gentlemen who knows how to act. You do have to recognize superiors (like me :D jk) but learn to not take that much crap. Crap is part of life and some of it you DO have to take. You're young...Wait until you graduate High School to realize how much different life can be.
 
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Stop trying to please other people, start pleasing yourself.

It is the only path to satisfaction.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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drixsa

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Originally posted by Smooth as Anything
Stop trying to please other people, start pleasing yourself.

It is the only path to satisfaction.
smartest thing you've ever said

AC/DC why not be both.

a player can be a gentlemen.:eek:

but it is a lot harder to be a gentlemen than a player
 

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AC/DC, You need to drop her and let her see that you are happy if not happier without her.
As for your question, the truth behind it is that you need to be a bit of everything. You gotta know when you need to not take sh!t and you need to know when to tolerate it.
You gotta be the good guy in this case, if she tries to b!tch you need to show you are the better person, on a higher level and maturily shut her up. Out of experience this is the worst thing you could do to her because even after all the hurt, you still manage to be happy and to not sink down to a 12 year old level and ***** back.
Just handle it like a man, in the sense of a mature man.

Good luck,
Lik
 

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Originally posted by AC/DC
I have an internal conflict.... it's actually a very interesting conflict...

Should I be:
A) The person society teaches me to be, a player who doesn't take crap from any female and recognizes no one as his superior, or should I be
B) The person my dad wants me to be, a gentleman who dones't let women get the best of him but still tolerates women for that is their nature.

I just broke up with a girl I liked a lot because she was unreceptive and very difficult towards me, and I wondered how I should respond when your girl is a heartless *****: like a genthleman or like a player?

I can be both, but I'm more satisfied with being the player.

you forgot about C) Be yourself :p
 

Brazilian_Blues_Boy

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Originally posted by Smooth as Anything
Stop trying to please other people, start pleasing yourself.

It is the only path to satisfaction.
I didn't expect such selfish remark from such a intelligent person.:rolleyes:

BBB
 
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