"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Intern being very flirty

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She's barely legal college girl and kinda cute. At first I didn't pay much attention to her, but since she's near my cubical, she's been IMing and talking nonstop, always giggling and smiling at what I say. It's getting harder not to go for it, but I've always heard that dipping your pen in the company ink leads to bad things.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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She's just an intern. Won't she be gone in August? Put the screws to her before she goes back to school and has train run on her at the first frat party of the year.
 
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It's weird, I don't feel pressured when talking to her as I do with most girls here plus she is more of the geeky type (way more than me). I sent out hints to have lunch together though not very successful, though I plan to ask tomorrow if she's planning anything this weekend. I feel like an AFC but I don't care, I'm going with my gut on this.

Any other tips or advice on picking up an intern girl?
 
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Haha. Dont worry if she's a coworker. You're already showing signs that you're gonna f.uck this up so coworker or not, you're gonna blow it.
1. Having the first date on a weekend is the biggest no-no. You're a fun busy guy so you must have better things to do on a weekend... or is she the best thing you've got going on in your life right now?

2. You said "its getting harder not to go for it", that means she's really getting to you. I smell a oneitits coming.

3. "You don't feel pressured to talk to her like most other girls". Thats how it starts, right now her interest level is probably high, and yours is starting to grow. Pretty soon your interest will be so big that it will make her lose hers.
PS. NEVER feel pressure to talk to a girl. Do it because you feel like having fun. You never feel pressured to have fun right?

4. You say you already feel like an AFC. At least you recognize it, enough said.
 
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Thanks for the pep talk :up: You're a very positive thinker.

Seriously though, if she's not into me, I don't care. I was thinking weekend date cause I'm usually tired after work. No oneitis, I was trying to set up a second date with an asian girl but she never picked up the damn phone. Her loss.

I'll ask anyways and update with results.

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Haha. Dont worry if she's a coworker. You're already showing signs that you're gonna f.uck this up so coworker or not, you're gonna blow it.
1. Having the first date on a weekend is the biggest no-no. You're a fun busy guy so you must have better things to do on a weekend... or is she the best thing you've got going on in your life right now?

2. You said "its getting harder not to go for it", that means she's really getting to you. I smell a oneitits coming.

3. "You don't feel pressured to talk to her like most other girls". Thats how it starts, right now her interest level is probably high, and yours is starting to grow. Pretty soon your interest will be so big that it will make her lose hers.
PS. NEVER feel pressure to talk to a girl. Do it because you feel like having fun. You never feel pressured to have fun right?

4. You say you already feel like an AFC. At least you recognize it, enough said.
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Well apparently she wasn't wild about going to see a movie with me, shame. When I asked if she was doing anything this weekend, she said "not sure", then I offered to see the movie I was already planning to see, but she declined saying she would rather do boring stuff. I negged her telling her to have a nice boring weekend in a playful tone.

It's still fun to talk with her, less drama around the office.
 
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