"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Intern being very flirty

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She's barely legal college girl and kinda cute. At first I didn't pay much attention to her, but since she's near my cubical, she's been IMing and talking nonstop, always giggling and smiling at what I say. It's getting harder not to go for it, but I've always heard that dipping your pen in the company ink leads to bad things.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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She's just an intern. Won't she be gone in August? Put the screws to her before she goes back to school and has train run on her at the first frat party of the year.
 

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It's weird, I don't feel pressured when talking to her as I do with most girls here plus she is more of the geeky type (way more than me). I sent out hints to have lunch together though not very successful, though I plan to ask tomorrow if she's planning anything this weekend. I feel like an AFC but I don't care, I'm going with my gut on this.

Any other tips or advice on picking up an intern girl?
 

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Haha. Dont worry if she's a coworker. You're already showing signs that you're gonna f.uck this up so coworker or not, you're gonna blow it.
1. Having the first date on a weekend is the biggest no-no. You're a fun busy guy so you must have better things to do on a weekend... or is she the best thing you've got going on in your life right now?

2. You said "its getting harder not to go for it", that means she's really getting to you. I smell a oneitits coming.

3. "You don't feel pressured to talk to her like most other girls". Thats how it starts, right now her interest level is probably high, and yours is starting to grow. Pretty soon your interest will be so big that it will make her lose hers.
PS. NEVER feel pressure to talk to a girl. Do it because you feel like having fun. You never feel pressured to have fun right?

4. You say you already feel like an AFC. At least you recognize it, enough said.
 

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Thanks for the pep talk :up: You're a very positive thinker.

Seriously though, if she's not into me, I don't care. I was thinking weekend date cause I'm usually tired after work. No oneitis, I was trying to set up a second date with an asian girl but she never picked up the damn phone. Her loss.

I'll ask anyways and update with results.

r0cky said:
Haha. Dont worry if she's a coworker. You're already showing signs that you're gonna f.uck this up so coworker or not, you're gonna blow it.
1. Having the first date on a weekend is the biggest no-no. You're a fun busy guy so you must have better things to do on a weekend... or is she the best thing you've got going on in your life right now?

2. You said "its getting harder not to go for it", that means she's really getting to you. I smell a oneitits coming.

3. "You don't feel pressured to talk to her like most other girls". Thats how it starts, right now her interest level is probably high, and yours is starting to grow. Pretty soon your interest will be so big that it will make her lose hers.
PS. NEVER feel pressure to talk to a girl. Do it because you feel like having fun. You never feel pressured to have fun right?

4. You say you already feel like an AFC. At least you recognize it, enough said.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Well apparently she wasn't wild about going to see a movie with me, shame. When I asked if she was doing anything this weekend, she said "not sure", then I offered to see the movie I was already planning to see, but she declined saying she would rather do boring stuff. I negged her telling her to have a nice boring weekend in a playful tone.

It's still fun to talk with her, less drama around the office.
 
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