"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Interigation

happyman2012

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Just wondering how other people handle it when a girl/girlfriend interogates you.

I have been with my girlfriend for about year and a half and she shows all the signs of high interest. She is definetly not cheating on me I'll just throw that out there.

We were texting today wilst she was at work:

Her: "Soo what you upto? xxx"
Me: "just off to the garage xx"

(For people in the US its like a gas station I get my gas card topped up there.)

Her: "Which one and why???"

(no kisses and it seemed very demanding compared to how she texts when her hamster isnt spinning)

Me: "am I being interogated?"

Her: "No just tell me"

Me: "No haha, not when you go all inspector cluso on me. You talk to me right and dont demand information. You need to get a grip"

Her: "Hmmmmm"

I just ignored her from then.

Did I handle this right? I have no problem telling her what I'm upto, but only if she asks in a right way. I dont feel its showing me respect when she comes accross the way she does.

How would YOU deal with a situation like this?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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sylvester the cat

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i would have avoided the 'you need to get a grip'. unless you enjoy arguments.

i would have just either given her a sarcastic response (to rent a video) or ignored her if it really bothered me.
 

happyman2012

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Cheers guys.

I am naturally ****y and funny but because Ive been with her for year and a half and do have feelings for her sometimes I forget to be C+F and sarcastic in these type of situations and get abit annoyed.

Always learning

Cheers
 

VladPatton

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Yeah just don't entertain the question. What are you, on trial??? Hell no:


happyman2012 said:
Her: "Soo what you upto? xxx"
You: "just off to the garage xx"

Her: "Which one and why???"

You: ''the one with gas, for....gas''

That's it. You chuck the phone on the passenger seat, crank up your music and you go to wherever the hell you need to go. If she tries to continue the confrontation at home, definitely begin to look for a way out, this is a red flag the size of King King's cape.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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