"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Interesting Weights Scenario

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I'm still not training properly at the moment because of a recovering rotator cuff. As my financial situation stands, I cant afford to save for both a sportsbike and a gym membership - and frankly, the sportsbike is more important to me these days.

However I was laying in bed last night agonising to go lift when few weird things struck me.

I was wondering how far people could go with 90KG of freeweights and a bench in their shed. I started to think about how productive barbell split squats could be in the long term, and if it'd be possible to build a respectable [Note: not massive] body with just 90KG and the right diet.

Now dont get me wrong - I know real squats are where it's at. After all, my stomach tells me so after 5X5 of heavy squattin' :eek:. When I cant deadlift heavy every other week, I start to feel a bit cranky.

But as I said - financial situation is dictating no gym membership. What kind of progress do some of the more experienced guys think is possible with this approach?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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It depends on your current level .. your progress will be limited by the weights you have available. If you can already lift 80kg on exercise x then bringing that exercise up to 90kg won't gain you much, however going from 40kg to 90kg will be an improvement where you can make progress (and hopefully add muscle).

90kg isn't a whole lot though. Can you buy another 100kgs worth? A 200kg deadlift is very good, a 90kg deadlift isn't.

You'll gain muscle on those exercises which you can increase.. but once you've mastered your weights you won't grow anymore.

But it's good that you've got priorities. If the sportsbike is more important, buy it and enjoy it. :)
 

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I used to be able to lift properly. By properly I mean 395X2 for squats and 400X2 for DL's, but after doing in my rotator cuff while doing a series of clean and presses, I've lost a considerable amount of muscle.

The cuff is feeling better now, but I dont dare go above about 70KG for benching right now. I dont go above that for any olympic lifts either - I just feel like it needs longer.

Essentially, the strength will come back pretty swift, and the mass will be easier to pack on because my body is used to having a decent amount of muscle on it.

I was just considering how far I could go with what I have down in the shed until I have enough money for the gym again.

I could buy more weights, but they'd only serve their purpose on deadlifts. I'd need to buy a new bench because the one I have at the moment cant really take more than me + 90KG as it is, and I dont have a squat rack at hom e- therefore costing about as much as it would to join the gym for a year again! :lol:

If you have any links to good articles to do with home-made squat rack creation up your sleeve, I might bite the bullet and go for more weight ;)

Cheers for the reply

Ben
 

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Damn, my old dad'd love to make you a squat rack.. when I was 17 he made me barbells made out of iron pipes with buckets filled with concrete on either end. That started my lifting career, lol. It can be done though. Befriend a welder!

If you're just doing rehab work then I'd work into the weights you've got.. once they're easy then start saving for the gym. :) Enjoy your bike in the meantime.
 

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Hehe, ghetto weights :) They work a treat.

I guess all isnt lost. A bit of sled dragging, sandbag work, and other strongman training can still be done ghetto style to add another dimension to the easy and boring lifts to come :) I could also use the spare time I have to work on energy system training, so I'm in good shape to start back in the gym when my financial situation improves.

Damn straight I'll enjoy the bike... Aiming for amateur racing in 2 years time :woo:

Thanks for the help,

Ben
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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While I'm here, I cant quite get to parallel on my squats anymore! I seem to have seized!

What stretches do I require to resolve this issue? I just need the names, I'll research them myself :)

Cheers,

Ben
 

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Go to the Dogg Pound on intensemuscle.com and there's an extreme stretches sticky, the quad stretches are a few pages in but the whole thread is a worth the read. :)

The strength will come back very quickly mate.
 
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