"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Interesting, to say the least

donjuanapprentice01

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Today I got a surprise call from the best friend of my "oneitus" so to speak. She called to wish me a happy bday. I got it on my cell, during work, so I didn't get a whole lot of time to talk to her, only a minute or so. Someone whom I barely know, whom I haven't seen or talked to in almost a year. And, someone who is now single after a LTR with a guy whom I heard was a major @sshole.

Funny thing is, I've always been attracted to her, but she was always with the bf. so nothing ever happened, and I sheilded myself against any hurt, unlike with my oneitus, who has been mostly single for the past 5 years, and who hasn't had a proper bf in over 1 year.

So, it got me to thinking... I should try to tap that @ss, now that she in on the market. I'm going to be seeing her in a club on Saturday night, as my "oneitus" friend has invited me to go with them. NOTE!!: I have never been a chump towards this chick!

She is from Afghanistan, and I guess a pseudo-muslim, although she doesn't practice (as far as I know). That means her parents (especially the dad) obviously wants her to marry a muslim as well. She actually hid her previous bf from her parents and family because he wasn't a muslim. So, this is worrisome a bit, for me anyways.

Anyways, I need to spin more plates, and since I have very few prospects, I may as well go for it. I mean, why not. So yeah, it'll be a bit of an odd situation, but I barely know this girl so it's more or less starting from a fresh deck. The only thing is that she is my "onituses" best friend, so that may be a bit awkward, but we'll see.

Any opinions are welcome!
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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donjuanapprentice01

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Hmmm... another interesting development.

My oneitus friend messaged me that this chick wants to go to the beach on Saturday, with me. Oneitus will be there too.

So, I figure, why the hell not, don't want to sound needy, but I love going to the beach and I've got some free time Saturday.

Any tips on how to handle this at the beach?
 

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Don't expect much. Hang out at the beach, flirt a little, but nothin's gonna happen with a friend hanging around.

On Sunday, give her a call and set up something with just you.

If you're going to the beach, don't go to the club. Don't dedicate an entire Saturday, day and night, to this chaperoned non-date.

You have other things to do Saturday night (even if you really don't.)
 

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qweretyuiopas said:
Happy Birthday dude!
lol
how old are ya?
what did ya do for the big day?
Thanks for the bday wishes!

I'm 26 now, but things didn't go as planned...

My mom had a nasty fall and fractured her ankle in 2 places. So, she's in a cast at the moment, and has been down in the dumps. As a result, my camping plans were cut short (didn't stay overnight cuz I wanted to rush home) so I didn't get the chance to try to seduce my oneitus, as I had planned, but oh well, sh1t happens.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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