"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Interesting, to say the least

donjuanapprentice01

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Today I got a surprise call from the best friend of my "oneitus" so to speak. She called to wish me a happy bday. I got it on my cell, during work, so I didn't get a whole lot of time to talk to her, only a minute or so. Someone whom I barely know, whom I haven't seen or talked to in almost a year. And, someone who is now single after a LTR with a guy whom I heard was a major @sshole.

Funny thing is, I've always been attracted to her, but she was always with the bf. so nothing ever happened, and I sheilded myself against any hurt, unlike with my oneitus, who has been mostly single for the past 5 years, and who hasn't had a proper bf in over 1 year.

So, it got me to thinking... I should try to tap that @ss, now that she in on the market. I'm going to be seeing her in a club on Saturday night, as my "oneitus" friend has invited me to go with them. NOTE!!: I have never been a chump towards this chick!

She is from Afghanistan, and I guess a pseudo-muslim, although she doesn't practice (as far as I know). That means her parents (especially the dad) obviously wants her to marry a muslim as well. She actually hid her previous bf from her parents and family because he wasn't a muslim. So, this is worrisome a bit, for me anyways.

Anyways, I need to spin more plates, and since I have very few prospects, I may as well go for it. I mean, why not. So yeah, it'll be a bit of an odd situation, but I barely know this girl so it's more or less starting from a fresh deck. The only thing is that she is my "onituses" best friend, so that may be a bit awkward, but we'll see.

Any opinions are welcome!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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donjuanapprentice01

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Hmmm... another interesting development.

My oneitus friend messaged me that this chick wants to go to the beach on Saturday, with me. Oneitus will be there too.

So, I figure, why the hell not, don't want to sound needy, but I love going to the beach and I've got some free time Saturday.

Any tips on how to handle this at the beach?
 

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Don't expect much. Hang out at the beach, flirt a little, but nothin's gonna happen with a friend hanging around.

On Sunday, give her a call and set up something with just you.

If you're going to the beach, don't go to the club. Don't dedicate an entire Saturday, day and night, to this chaperoned non-date.

You have other things to do Saturday night (even if you really don't.)
 

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qweretyuiopas said:
Happy Birthday dude!
lol
how old are ya?
what did ya do for the big day?
Thanks for the bday wishes!

I'm 26 now, but things didn't go as planned...

My mom had a nasty fall and fractured her ankle in 2 places. So, she's in a cast at the moment, and has been down in the dumps. As a result, my camping plans were cut short (didn't stay overnight cuz I wanted to rush home) so I didn't get the chance to try to seduce my oneitus, as I had planned, but oh well, sh1t happens.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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