Interesting tinder date (but might have a bf) - now what?

[BJP1991]

So I have two options:
1 - reach out 10 days after the first date, once the suspected bf is gone

Or

2 - do my normal routine where I re-initiate after 3-6 days from the first date and proceed to line up a second date for the following week

Thanks!

Bump

 

[Mazer]

Women with boyfriends don’t want you blowing up their phones when they are at home with their bf’s. Let her do all of the reaching out. This is a FWB situation and only that. If you are looking for anything more, you will be crushed when she goes back, which in my cases they do no matter how ****ty the relationship. Have fun with her and keep spinning plates.

 

[BJP1991]

Women with boyfriends don’t want you blowing up their phones when they are at home with their bf’s. Let her do all of the reaching out. This is a FWB situation and only that. If you are looking for anything more, you will be crushed when she goes back, which in my cases they do no matter how ****ty the relationship. Have fun with her and keep spinning plates.

Thanks for the reply, but if you read my original post, and the one immediately preceding yours, you’ll see that there is legitimate reason to suspect that her “bf” is leaving the country permanently in about 8 days from now. Any further thoughts after realizing that piece? If her bf was not leaving, I would not really be considering her as an option even.

 

[Mazer]

Usually I let the woman reach out to me to determine her Interest level but if you feel like you need to contact her then do it in a few days and ask her out (I wouldn’t wait 10days). If it’s true that her bf is leaving, then she is preparing to ride the cawk carousel. If she agrees to a date, you better f-close on the next date my friend.

 

[Glassguy]

Never tried Tinder, as I try to stay away from STDs, but this has worked with Match, Bumble and OKCupid for me.

They are all women on dating sites looking to fvck. There is no difference

 

[R.U.G.]

They are all women on dating sites looking to fvck. There is no difference

Nah, I think they are mostly looking for attention with the option to fvck if they are so inclined. Two of my employees have contracted something from Tinder. Maybe they just had bad luck.

 

[Trump]

Need to work on your game bro. Also, never accept a date the same or next day. Shows you have no options. You want the women to think you have many options and hard to nail down. Always shoot for 5 - 7 days in advance.

Exactly.

Tinder: “I’m having a nice dinner. Maybe we could this again.”
Man: “Ya ya ya. What’s you schedule like next weekend?”

Brutal.

 

[R.U.G.]

Exactly.

Tinder: “I’m having a nice dinner. Maybe we could this again.”
Man: “Ya ya ya. What’s you schedule like next weekend?”

Brutal.

LOL. It's part of the game bro.. You know that. Abundance mindset.

 

[Glassguy]

Nah, I think they are mostly looking for attention with the option to fvck if they are so inclined. Two of my employees have contracted something from Tinder. Maybe they just had bad luck.

The only difference between most of the women on Match/Bumble vs Tinder/etc is probably financial earnings. Thats it.

There is no difference in a woman's intent because of what dating site she is on.

 

[BJP1991]

Usually I let the woman reach out to me to determine her Interest level but if you feel like you need to contact her then do it in a few days and ask her out (I wouldn’t wait 10days). If it’s true that her bf is leaving, then she is preparing to ride the cawk carousel. If she agrees to a date, you better f-close on the next date my friend.

I decided to go with this and did my usual routine, and play it like I have absolutely no clue she has a bf she is living with until he moves in a week. I texted her after work yesterday, but I didn’t flat out ask her for a second date via text, but just let her know it was nice meeting her/was a pleasure talking to her/would be great to see her sometime when she is available.

 

[Roober]

Your not caring, hooking up, having fun, and in the healing phase, but then create a mountain of text about a simple situation with a girl you havent fvcked?

Talk about incongruence of character. Dont worry about this one. Keep working on your inner game.

 

[BJP1991]

Your not caring, hooking up, having fun, and in the healing phase, but then create a mountain of text about a simple situation with a girl you havent fvcked?

Talk about incongruence of character. Dont worry about this one. Keep working on your inner game.

You’re completely right - this has happened a few times over the last several months. Where I go on several dates and every now and again one girl comes along that I really find hot/attractive personality-wise and I totally lose my cool. I plan to dedicate a lot of time to inner game, as I know it’s where I’m lacking. Moreso in the sense of handling second, third, fourth, etc dates with girls that I genuinely feel a connection with, other than the ones who are more like fwbs.

Any advice on where to start other than focusing more on developing my masculine-core and pursuing my passions? I do have several interests/passions that do boost my self-esteem, plus lifting/running daily definitely helps.

Thanks fellas,
BJP

 

[R.U.G.]

The only difference between most of the women on Match/Bumble vs Tinder/etc is probably financial earnings. Thats it.

There is no difference in a woman's intent because of what dating site she is on.

Perhaps, I do not know. I've not been on Tinder, I only hear stories from people I know.

 

[escaleraroyal]

did you fclose?

 

[Glassguy]

Why would you care anyway if she has a boyfriend or not, just fvck her.

This.

It sounds like you arent looking for a relationship, which is good. One thing that you need to realize is that women will use dating sites and real life to line up the next dude so they can make a clean monkey branch move from the current dude.

And that is ok. Its just how women work and I did this a lot too before my rotation.

I think you need to invite her to come over to YOUR place to make dinner or watch a movie ASAP. Fvck this chick into an oblivion and then let her decide what she wants to do. Hopefully she will come back for more, again and again.

Dont put pressure on her. If she does have a bf that she wants to get away from, chances are he isnt pounding it anymore and hasnt been for a while.

Putting pressure or mentioning her pics with the dude will only run her off.

Just relax, invite her over and have fun with her.

Chicks are only borrowed and never owned.