Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Tictac
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If the relationship is going in a serious direction (months after it starts), that's a different story.
So keep it light & funny out of the box.
Besides, how old are you? You could (& probably will) change as you age. I didn't want or think much of kids when I was younger. But I have three now and wouldn't trade them for anything. And by the time we started having kids, I was great with the idea.
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How about 'not right now' or haven't thought it through. Big decision. Give it its due. And never say never.
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I say NO.Perry said:
You have to understand that "attraction" is ingrained.
It's a function of the human body that gets activated when certain conditions are met.
Since it's a bodily function,that means it isn't a choice.
If you're meeting the conditions that cause attraction in a woman,then she'll be attracted AUTOMATICALLY,and the "fact" that you don't like kids won't change that,.
If I cut my finger,it heals...AUTOMATICALLY...by itself.
It's not a decision I make,it's a bodily function.
If I go outside when it's 100 degrees,my body will start to sweat...AUTOMATICALLY...by itself,whether I like it or not.
The body healing itself when it's cut,and sweating when it's in excessive heat are things THE BODY DOES ON IT'S OWN under certain specific conditions.
Well,attraction is also a bodily function that gets activated when certain conditions are met.
You meet those conditions in a woman,and as long as those conditions are present,you can say whatever you want,and she'll still be attracted to you.
And if she has the choice between following her emotions and the attraction she feels towards you,versus the logical "fact" that you don't like small children,well which do you think she'll follow?
More than likely,what will happen is if she wants kids,and is attracted to you,but you tell her you don't like kids,she'll just try to change you into wanting kids instead of losing interest.
If she's an older woman who wants kids and she's attracted to you,she'll probably put up with it as long as she can,then if she sees that you just aren't going to change your mind,then against everything in her heart,mind,and emotions,she may leave the relationship.
Her leaving the relationship doesn't mean she's not still attracted to you,only that she went against her emotions and feelings of wanting to stay with you,which is RARE.
It would have to be an EXTREME CIRCUMSTANCE for a woman to go against her emotions.
So to me,no,telling her you don't like kids won't make her lose interest,IF she's attracted to you.
If she isn't attracted,then she'll use the "you not liking kids" as an excuse to end things.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I think the best anwser is "someday, when I'm financially stable and I find the right woman". Because that might be true someday. Good luck.