"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
interesting question
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Tictac
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If the relationship is going in a serious direction (months after it starts), that's a different story.
So keep it light & funny out of the box.
Besides, how old are you? You could (& probably will) change as you age. I didn't want or think much of kids when I was younger. But I have three now and wouldn't trade them for anything. And by the time we started having kids, I was great with the idea.
Tictac
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How about 'not right now' or haven't thought it through. Big decision. Give it its due. And never say never.
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I say NO.Perry said:
You have to understand that "attraction" is ingrained.
It's a function of the human body that gets activated when certain conditions are met.
Since it's a bodily function,that means it isn't a choice.
If you're meeting the conditions that cause attraction in a woman,then she'll be attracted AUTOMATICALLY,and the "fact" that you don't like kids won't change that,.
If I cut my finger,it heals...AUTOMATICALLY...by itself.
It's not a decision I make,it's a bodily function.
If I go outside when it's 100 degrees,my body will start to sweat...AUTOMATICALLY...by itself,whether I like it or not.
The body healing itself when it's cut,and sweating when it's in excessive heat are things THE BODY DOES ON IT'S OWN under certain specific conditions.
Well,attraction is also a bodily function that gets activated when certain conditions are met.
You meet those conditions in a woman,and as long as those conditions are present,you can say whatever you want,and she'll still be attracted to you.
And if she has the choice between following her emotions and the attraction she feels towards you,versus the logical "fact" that you don't like small children,well which do you think she'll follow?
More than likely,what will happen is if she wants kids,and is attracted to you,but you tell her you don't like kids,she'll just try to change you into wanting kids instead of losing interest.
If she's an older woman who wants kids and she's attracted to you,she'll probably put up with it as long as she can,then if she sees that you just aren't going to change your mind,then against everything in her heart,mind,and emotions,she may leave the relationship.
Her leaving the relationship doesn't mean she's not still attracted to you,only that she went against her emotions and feelings of wanting to stay with you,which is RARE.
It would have to be an EXTREME CIRCUMSTANCE for a woman to go against her emotions.
So to me,no,telling her you don't like kids won't make her lose interest,IF she's attracted to you.
If she isn't attracted,then she'll use the "you not liking kids" as an excuse to end things.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I think the best anwser is "someday, when I'm financially stable and I find the right woman". Because that might be true someday. Good luck.