"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Interesting increase in prevalance of long distance relationships

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My nephew just got out of a long distance relationship. I warned them that in my experience they never work out.

At this moment, i know of at least 3 couples currently in long distance relationships. It seems like in the past few years, i am seeing more of these than ever before. I know how it all starts given how connected we are nowadays, but it still seems like a recipe for disaster unless you are in it for a free place to stay and a few weekend lays. I had a few of them in the past, they were fun but unless someone moves they aren't going to work out.. ever.

Are you seeing alot of these or is it just in my circle of friends?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I can't find any hard statistics that say that long distance is increasing, but it seems like a reasonable conclusion.

Long distance is an extremely difficult path. I wouldn't recommend it at all.
 

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Yes agreed that it isnt a good choice and I wouldn’t recommend

My nephew got into one due to a mutual friend of his. The woman he dated grew up in the same state as him and had alot of similarities.

Some of the other long distance relationships involve cases where both people are recently divorced

Other situations i know of are cases where both people are of the same cultural minority.

I know a few cases of Chinese couples who are married but their spouse lives in another state or country
 

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A long-distance relationship is better than having parasocial realtionships from content creators on youtube or elsewhere. (When you can exchange videos, pictures, and have real-time streaming experience, or if they also have a VR-headset and you can do things and watch things together in cyberspace then I don't think in person interaction is as necessary.)
 

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A long-distance relationship is better than having parasocial realtionships from content creators on youtube or elsewhere. (When you can exchange videos, pictures, and have real-time streaming experience, or if they also have a VR-headset and you can do things and watch things together in cyberspace then I don't think in person interaction is as necessary.)
Yeah you have to figure that's coming next. Men will use it to get off and women will get the tingles from it and fall hopelessly for some guy they will never meet.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Between social media zoom and skype i'm not surprised.
Yeah honestly at one time lack of minutes and long distance charges were enough to probably discourage some long distance relationships.
 
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