MatureDJ
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Interesting essay by a depressed married man longing for his better days
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Assuming it's not fiction, the guy only has himself to blame. Marriage is not prison; you can leave if you want.
Mr.Positive
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It was his choice to get married, his choice to have children...
He can't blame his family for that.
Since he's married, by his choice, he needs to man-up and realize that there's people depending on him, for their welfare, growth..his job now...isn't Thailand..
It's raising his children properly. That should be his focus.
He can't blame his family for that.
Since he's married, by his choice, he needs to man-up and realize that there's people depending on him, for their welfare, growth..his job now...isn't Thailand..
It's raising his children properly. That should be his focus.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
But he's not raising his children well. He's showing them a horrible example of a relationship. His kids will think that men are supposed to be whipped and they will grow up to have fvcked up relationships of their own. I think 'doing the right thing' is a form of child abuse. Ironically, staying in a hellhole marriage is supposed to be "for the kids?" If his kids are not just as miserable as him (and his wife), then they will be eventually.
I think divorce is better for kids than a bad marriage. The kids I knew whose parents stayed together for their sake are just as fvcked up as anyone else.
I think divorce is better for kids than a bad marriage. The kids I knew whose parents stayed together for their sake are just as fvcked up as anyone else.
Mr.Positive
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Well, he needs to raise his children well. He needs to be a role model for his children, he needs to guide them, teach them...hell, give his life for them if needed.Bible_Belt said:
When you have children, it isn't about YOU anymore!!
F*ck the marriage. We all know how "fragile" marriages are now. That's no secret.
It's our children that really matter. It's the young ones that are grasping for guidance, but not finding any masculine role-models.
We need to recognize this. The lack of masculine leaders for our children.
There's comes a point where men need to step up to the plate and lead.
That point is our children.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
KarmaSutra
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Every goddamned word Brother Positive wrote is fvcking true to the bone.Mr.Positive said:
He made his bed and his kids but doesn't have the sac to get his sh!t together and whip that ass? Fvck him.
He's responsible for his inhuman condition.
Last Man Standing
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He needs to control his wife and children or else they will control him!! He likes the pimp lifestyle but that lifestyle gets old - if you love hors, then do not get married! And if you don't like large woman then don't get married to one!!