"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Ever onward

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Seems right on the money, too bad we can't put it in the bible.
 

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He is right about SOME things...

Well, I think he is halfway there. He is at the point of realizing women are emotional creatures (as in fact almost all people are) but what he is forgetting is the STABILIZATION of a particular mindstate/frame.

See the reason 'men' are so logical is because we have morals and ethics and all kinds of BS hammered into our brains. Sine birth nice guys are taught to be loyal and noble and honest and etc. etc. etc.

They create a persona. Mr. Niceguy. Its a psychological function! And as any psychological function it carries on stabilizing factors. Postive stabilization (might feel good about turning down a hooker, aka REWARDED WITH A PLEASANT EMOTION). Negative stabilization (might feel bad about cheating, aka PUNISHED WITH AN EMOTION). There might be limiting stabilizations (can't like her ENOUGH to fvck her.)

What this guy doesn't realize he is doing is TEARING DOWN those stabilizing factors. Once the funciton becomes de-stabilized, a new function can be created. And is. The girl is a whole OTHER persona from the loyal nice girl she is with her boyfriend.

He is ****ing the same body, whole different Identity State.

In third and second world countries, most people are VERY HEAVILY stabilized in their particular 'roles.' This is not so in 1st world countries. In 1st world countries we have the luxury to drift in and out of states of consciousness.

The reason women stay faithful is because they are so heavily STABILIZED in their 'faithful' state.

He says he can't trust women. I can.

He says women are emotional creatures, is he ignoring the fact that emotions can be anchored and triggered? It's pavlov's psychology at this point. SIMPLE SIMPLE STUFF!

If he can de-stabilize a woman's functions, why can't he create anchors and stabilizing factors for the woman he would marry? He doesn't blame women, and says he gets them because of his skills...wouldn't the same logic apply to keeping them?

"SKILLZ";)
 

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Very stimulating post Phoenix! I like the idea of 1st world people floating in and out of states of consciousness. Would you please give some detail on how to anchor and stabilize states of consciousness?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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good stuff

There is a lot of truth to what he says here.
But, he does knock banging a 30 year old.. Hey, most 30 year olds have goooooood puzzy.

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