"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Interesting article about "mean girls"

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http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dy...1/AR2011021104947.html?tid=wp_featuredstories

I have a theory about this. The proverbial hunter-gatherer evolutionary social system produced women to be very competitive about securing the high value male when at the proper age (i.e., starting at sexual maturity, and ending a few years later before the woman becomes an old maid at age 20. :yes:) Then after the pair bonding has been sorted out and the women get on to the job of pumping out babies, the women need to be sociable with their former adversaries so as to assist each other in the duties of child rearing, making clothes, etc. (This could even be extended to sharing the duties of supplying milk to the babies - my grandfather had stories of how one particular buxom woman was more or less the dedicated milk provider for the village's kids. :eek:) And they needed to be especially sociable so that they could keep their men faithful, with the idea that friends wouldn't want to steal a man.

Thus women have been designed to be mean to each other during adolescence - with the attendant social stratification, dividing up the "cool" kids from the outcasts - so as to present themselves as the most worthy of attention from the equally "cool" men. And later in life, they have needed to band together so as to enforce sexual stability, with its attendant shaming memes to keep their men in line.

What do you think?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

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Women are competitive, no doubt, but their "status" among other women or groups means nothing to men. If the girl is attractive, no amount of ostracization is going to devalue her to men.

She may feel isolated among her peers but men (orbiters) will become her new best friends.
 

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Tazman said:
Women are competitive, no doubt, but their "status" among other women or groups means nothing to men. If the girl is attractive, no amount of ostracization is going to devalue her to men.

She may feel isolated among her peers but men (orbiters) will become her new best friends.
Totally agree,the average man does not have the same sheep mentality that force women to chose those already chosen and approved.
 

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I don't see how acting like a b1tch is going to get you into the good graces of desirable men.

In fact, I'd probably look at the vulnerable women who lose at their little, boring feminine games and go "awww" and want those ones instead. Goddamn protectiveness wiring.
 
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