"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Interesting article about "mean girls"

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I have a theory about this. The proverbial hunter-gatherer evolutionary social system produced women to be very competitive about securing the high value male when at the proper age (i.e., starting at sexual maturity, and ending a few years later before the woman becomes an old maid at age 20. :yes:) Then after the pair bonding has been sorted out and the women get on to the job of pumping out babies, the women need to be sociable with their former adversaries so as to assist each other in the duties of child rearing, making clothes, etc. (This could even be extended to sharing the duties of supplying milk to the babies - my grandfather had stories of how one particular buxom woman was more or less the dedicated milk provider for the village's kids. :eek:) And they needed to be especially sociable so that they could keep their men faithful, with the idea that friends wouldn't want to steal a man.

Thus women have been designed to be mean to each other during adolescence - with the attendant social stratification, dividing up the "cool" kids from the outcasts - so as to present themselves as the most worthy of attention from the equally "cool" men. And later in life, they have needed to band together so as to enforce sexual stability, with its attendant shaming memes to keep their men in line.

What do you think?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Women are competitive, no doubt, but their "status" among other women or groups means nothing to men. If the girl is attractive, no amount of ostracization is going to devalue her to men.

She may feel isolated among her peers but men (orbiters) will become her new best friends.
 

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Tazman said:
Women are competitive, no doubt, but their "status" among other women or groups means nothing to men. If the girl is attractive, no amount of ostracization is going to devalue her to men.

She may feel isolated among her peers but men (orbiters) will become her new best friends.
Totally agree,the average man does not have the same sheep mentality that force women to chose those already chosen and approved.
 

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I don't see how acting like a b1tch is going to get you into the good graces of desirable men.

In fact, I'd probably look at the vulnerable women who lose at their little, boring feminine games and go "awww" and want those ones instead. Goddamn protectiveness wiring.
 
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