"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What do you guys make of this?

Went out for like 3 saturdays with my girl and a couple of her girlfriends. I started getting somewhat atracted by one of them (sarah).

One day my girl sends a message to sarah, and i got her number on my phone.
Couple of days ago i see her while driving, i see her and wave to her, and then latter i remember to send her a message saying hi and small chat.
Next day we exchange a couple of messages, she says she is at the beach with a couple ppl i know, i tell her i go out of work at time X and that if she's there i'll drop by. I get there a bit late when they are already leaving, we go for a cigar and since she had to leave she proposed to me and a girlfriend of hers to setup something for the night. She didnt mention my girl, only after i mentioned myself. Then i tell her i'd talk to her and convince her to go (so that i dont seem interested).
Latter that day (thursday), she sms's she is too tired, if we can go out tomorrow and if i can drive her home so that she can have a few drinks (cause she has car too)?

At this point i wonder if she wanted to setup for friday because she knew my girl would be working. I told her ok, it would be better for me cause i wouldnt work the next day.

Next day my girl talked with the other mutual friend of both that was also present when the sarah invited us both to go out, and tells me she thinks she is up to something and gets all jealous.

Anyway on friday night she didnt gave news.

Saturday i called, she told me she didnt had $ on her mobile. I told her i was goint out "alone" with couple of friends in the evening, and that we would go for a drink and then to the club or meet there at the club.
Saturday evening, and i send her a message telling her to drop by to the cofee shop i was. She didnt have $ to answer, but she did show up. But when she got there i was shooting some pool with a big friend of mine (a girl). She asked for my girl and a couple of the other girls we went out the previous saturdays, and i told her i didnt setup anything with them. Then she left and said we'd meet at the club.
I went somewhat late with my friends, didnt meet her there, who i saw there alone was a guy that i dont know if it was her boyfriend or not cause he's working at switzerland and seems like he was here this weekend.

I call on sunday (yesterday), i woke her up (at 20:00 lol) she says she didnt go to the club cause she got drunk and went home earlier. I tell her we'd setup something one of these night, and she sugests that night. I tell her a time, tell her i'd send a message to setup a place, and she says she'd charge her mobile with $ to answer. Latter that night when i gave her a ring she had her mobile off.

Btw, sarah beside being friend's to my girl, and thinks we're real boyfriends. Its weird all these flakes cause she didnt mention anything to my girl, send the messages and wanted to setup stuff, all in the back of my girl.
I'm not asking you guys about my girl, only about the other one. My girl and i are together for the sex, but she of course she doesnt know i'm up for other girls. For instance, i've been dating an ex of mine for about a month.

What do you guys think about this?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I think your girl has started to suspect you and "hired" sarah to prove that you're ****ing around.I bet if she (sarah) found you alone in any of the occasions she wouldn't bail that fast.I may be overanalyzing stuff but that's what it looks like to me.
 

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Nah, she hasnt cause she's too jealous to do that, and doesnt trust the other girl enough. I'm positive.

Now i'm chilling till i see her somewhere (being casual) or saturday comes and i setup something in a group and give her some sign to meet me somewhere alone.
 

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Maybe you shouldn't cheat on your girlfriend? Novel idea, I know.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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DarkChaos said:
Maybe you shouldn't cheat on your girlfriend? Novel idea, I know.
Like i said

Trance said:
I'm not asking you guys about my girl, only about the other one. My girl and i are together for the sex
 
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