Interest Question Here

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

To do it, you ask.
To ask, you open your mouth and speak.
To open your mouth and speak, you want to already be talking to her and just add that in somewhere.
To find the place to add that in... you've gotta do this by yourself because there's no telling where the "perfect moment" could be.
Use your personal judgment!

 

[Chicks Just Dig Me]

So my female neighbor friend had some ppl over, resulting in girl I want came with her friend. Her friend was the one who puts ppl down, and she started with the gay chokes to me and the girl I want chipped in playfully. We only flirted a little bit with some more soccer, and we threw some food at each other. Kinda started off rocky, and she kept texting on her phone, making me wonder who could it be, since it seems like she has low options.

Problem here, me and a few of my friends were sitting in the hottub with my female neighbor and the girl I like. My female neighbor says I should be nice to all girls, cuz nice people get the girls. And since she has seem me with other options, my female neighbor said I should pick the girl I like over my other options. I def. agree but I like to try to keep my options open to get over this oneitis cuz its very bad. My neighbor kept saying I should be nice and me and the girl I like would be cute together. This is kind of making me look bad, and she kept calling me a player cuz of my other options. I def. want the one I saw tonight, but I just hit "the wall" and do not know what to do next.

We watched a movie and she threw some food at me, but as I got cold and warm, I get crawling back into the hottub. Although I was alone though...She didn't seem like she wanted to get closer. As she left she kept hitting my abs

When it was just me, my friend, and my girl neighbor, she kept testing me. She kept asking me if I liked her, and that I should be really nice to her, cuz all girls like nice guys. Boy, I was thinking "yeah right" and I replied with a no that I did not like that girl. The reason for it was cuz I've been down that road, and my girl neighbor friend would wreck my chances most likely. I had fun tonight, but the gay chokes were kept being blasted on me, and I do get defensive sometimes, and being called the "player" made me seem like the bad guy. Also, she said she liked the nice guy. But, hey I was that last year wiht the girl I liked and got nowhere. Now I am trying my skills, still not getting far, but getting somewhere...

Any comments about this night???

 

[Sir Juanalot]

From what it sounds like to me, you started off well (from the start of the thread), but are just becoming "the funny guy" to her, as you aren't indicating your interest in her sexually.

You really need to let her know that you want her (non verbally), or you are gonna be friendzoned.

Go for a kiss at a good moment, isolate her and see what happens, at least then you will know what the score is instead of anaylsing every little detail.

If you don't try soon, you are gonna analyse yourself into the friendzone, and there is no way back from there.

 

[Chicks Just Dig Me]

Yeah, I was friendzoned last year when I started out too nice to her. This year, I used the skills I have learned and its got be a lot further, but I am still not where I want to be yet. When we were in the hottub, when my girl neighbor brought up a few girls she has seen me talk with, the girl I like said "she was off the market." I laughed it off because it was most likely a defensive mechanism she used. (She's not gonna say "Mike I am available--come get m...)" I would like to try to hang out alone, but my friend mentioned I should stick with the group thing for now to eliminate being creepy. When should I try to hang out alone with her or stick with the group thing for now. In the pool, she wasn't all flirty only a little. In the pool I am usually at my best, but...

 

[Jovan]

I have been reading this thread and I realise there is no point in giving you any advice about 5 different guys told you to just ask her out but somehow your WUSSY self doesnt know how to ask the opposite sex to do something. You claimed this chick has not asked you to do anything which is utter bull**** because I counted over three things you guys did together and guess what buddy you did absolutely nothing. You are so much of a WUSSY you actually expect a chick to ask you out instead you grab your balls and just kiss her. The main problem is you failed to escalate at important times. for eg. You are in the hot tub with her why didnt you move closer to her and go in for a kiss or incase you were scared some underwater kino. This poor chick did like you or maybe she still has some interest but she is starting to think you are asexual because you are all talk no ****. Flirting and kino are magical when it comes to attraction but they get old fast if you dont escalate.

 

[Chicks Just Dig Me]

In the hottub, there were about 5 of us. They kept on joking about watching where I put my hands and stuff. When we played soccer earlier, she always guarded me and we were thrusting our bodies at each other. I dont know man, you are prly right. I am losing her because the things I am doing are minor. I do not know why I am afriad, but maybe one reason is because my friends kept on joking about my masturbating in the hottub and stuff like. I gotta just ask her to hang out alone I guess. Maybe wait a couple days, and give her a call...

 

[Chicks Just Dig Me]

Well, after ice cream, I've called her a few times over the last few days. She has not answered her phone both times, and I am getting the feeling she was liking my attention and now I am getting played. After calling her, she signs on AOL and does not instant message me to ask me what I wanted, After one minute, she puta an away message up, and thats where I put my foot down. I do think I am getting played now and she is not interested in me at all. I had a little anger issue after this happened, because I have a deep oneitis for her, and now I guess I realized now this battle will not be won. I feel like she should at least call me back and see what was up, but she won't even do that...

Am I overreacting, or am I right that i do believe I am officially getting played and she has no interest in me now?

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

okay.. **** what she thinks or does.
shes just some dumb girl, don't get angry over something you'd laugh over in the future.

If you really wanna know what she thinks, do it the man way.

ASK her out.

Good luck bro, but you gotta do it!

 

[Chicks Just Dig Me]

Like I said, I've tried to ask her out. It's kind of tough to ask her out if she doesn't answer a few calls or even attempts to call me back...

Well yesterday, my friend and Sarah'f friend has a convo on AIN yesterday. She asked my friend if I liked Sarah. My friend, protected me by saying no, but he used to, but not now. My friend then asks Sarah's friend If she likes me, and she sai no. My friend then says she flirts with me a lot and its usually only me, but Sara's friend says thats her personality and that she is being nice and friendly, and that I am misreading her signals...

Only positive thing I can find is that Sarah's friend was trying to protect her, but highly unlikely. So I got my answer and it is a no, no interest from her. Plus she never called me back, but I did have fun with her...I guess it's over!

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

It probably is over.
Be the man and ask her if she likes you.
You don't care what she says so your question to her is a pure inquiry.

Get used to asking people out and start here, with probably your first rejection.

It'll be better for you to ask her instead of just leaving it like a missed chore.

you da man P

 

[mpimpin]

The same advice keeps appearing for every question you ask. If you haven't got it by now refer to the bible for more help.

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