"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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GaryNas

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I've read a few times on this board where a guy meets a girl at a club who's IL seems high at the time, but then low to none when he actually talks with her the next day (or whenever). After my experience last night I believe that in some instances, the guy might just imagine high IL. I was in a situation where I was the one giving the impression of high IL, when it's really not. Let me explain...

I go to the same club on a regular basis with the goal of having a good time. I flirt with a lot of girls, especially the regulars, but that's all it is, it's just for fun. One of the girls assumes I have high IL in her because of this - so last night she gives me her number. Now, I'm not going to call, but if we did talk outside of the club, my IL would be pretty much 0.

I think this is what happens a lot of the time. Dancing/grinding with someone doesn't necessarily mean they want to have your kids, rather they're just out to party. When the night is over then so is the IL because there's no use of the other person anymore.

That's my take on it and a possible reason why some girls flake... But, you can bet I'll be back clubbing next week - still flirting and expressing high IL. :)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Spike_the_cowboy

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Any woman will play the game with any man -- any man who respects the game, anyways.

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rjherche

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If a chick is crunked (whether through substances or just being caught up in the moment) up at a club she'll give you all sorts of false signals, which is why I'm never shocked when they give you the run around later on.
 
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