The Duke
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Getting to know a girl that displays high interest from the start is a breath of fresh air. She will stand out from all the rest and the process will flow easily. There won't be doubt in your mind as to where you stand with her.
Dealing with a girl that has low/medium interest leaves a guy confused, tired of the games, and thinking all women are flakes. These women string you along because they like attention and don't have any better option.
So what does high interest look like?
Before the 1st Date:
-She takes your calls/texts and replies within a decent time frame.
-She is easy to schedule a date with.
-She doesn't alter date plans.(its up to you to pick a time/place that is appealing to both of you.)
-She add's to the conversation and keeps it going.
-She asks questions.
-She is talkative.
-She gets nervous on the date.
During the 1st Date:
-Her body language is open to you. Always sit next to her, not across from her because a girl that is interested will turn towards you when she talks if she is interested. It also allows for touching. Pay attention to eye contact.
-She will laugh at your jokes and smile.
-As the date goes on she will be more at ease.
-Her pupils dilate.
-She compliments you.
-She follows your lead.
After the 1st Date:
-She remembers things you told her.
-She opens up more and tells you more personal stories.
-She is curious to learn more about you.
-The conversations get longer. I've had 6hr long phone conversations with new women before.
-She likes to talk/text before bed.
-She makes herself available for dates. She will clear off her schedule to meet with you.
-She sends seductive/naughty pics and you won't even need to ask.
-Her face lights up and her arms are open when she greets you.
-She starts touching you more.
-She mirrors your movements.
-She finds reasons to talk to you.
-If she makes the effort, she is interested.
-If she keeps responding, and keeps saying yes, she is interested.
-If she keeps the plans she agreed to.
-If you haven't made plans with her for the weekend yet, she will inquire about your plans. Its her hope that it includes her and you will ask her to do something.
-She will let you know she talked to her friend about you.
-She keeps up with your social media.
There are exceptions to every bit of this. Not all women are the same. Its not always black and white. Life happens, we all get distracted at times.
A womans degree of self-confidence will dictate how she expresses interest. So will how she was raised. More traditional women play their cards closer. A womans degree of anxiety, attachment style will drive a lot of how she responds to you.
Also, most women are kind and don't want to offend anyone(its their protection mechanism). Just because you think she is being nice doesn't mean she is interested. Thats your simple brain that doesn't understand women very well. They hope you will get the hint and move on.
Examples:
-I met a girl thru a mutual friend at a bar one night. After the bar closed we went to her house. She poured us some wine, and cooked some steaks. We had some good conversation and she asked a lot of questions about who I was as a person. It started to become clear that she had some sort of interest in me. Up until this point I just chalked it up to her being nice. When I left that night she asked for my number so I was certain she was interested then. Two weeks later she invites me to a hotel/resort pool party. At the pool party there was some "touching" between us in the water. For about a month she would randomly call/text. I rarely initiated anything. As her frustration must have grown with me not reciprocating/initiating, she reached out to my mutual friend asking him if I was interested or not. She had a good personality and great body, but the face wasn't there for me.
-Another girl I met dancing. We hit if off well and there was lots of physical chemistry. A day later I texted her and she responsed quickly. Later she told me she didn't think I would ever call her. I actually thought she was out of my league looks/age wise so I didn't get my hopes up but that didn't keep me from pursuing her. A week later we had a date that went well. She did most all of those things I listed above. Only thing was she didn't talk a lot like most women do. I teased her about being so quiet, She said she was just nervous.
-I had another girl that I was with for several years. In the early dating phases she would never initiate anything. It got me to wondering how interested she really was. What kept me pursuing her was every time I did ask her out she agreed. IF they keep saying YES, they are interested.
-I met a girl off Match several years ago. We talked on the phone and texted before going out. I had scheduled a date for Saturday nite and she breaks her phone at the lake that day. She cuts her lake time short so she could go to the phone store and port her number over to her work phone. She didn't want me to think she was blowing me off and wanted to make sure our date happened as scheduled.
-I was working a girl at a bar one nite. We were flirting back and forth, light touching. She took my hat and put it on her head and started taking pictures of herself. Up until that point I thought she was interested., It was all about using my hat to take pics of herself. This girl liked the attention and played the game just to get what she wanted. I did get her number but she never replied to my text.
The best way to learn to interpret interest level correctly is to interact with women. For a long time, I looked at each and every interaction with a female as an opportunity to observe and learn so I could become better. Nowdays, I get more base hits, home runs than strike outs. It wasn't always that way.
Dealing with a girl that has low/medium interest leaves a guy confused, tired of the games, and thinking all women are flakes. These women string you along because they like attention and don't have any better option.
So what does high interest look like?
Before the 1st Date:
-She takes your calls/texts and replies within a decent time frame.
-She is easy to schedule a date with.
-She doesn't alter date plans.(its up to you to pick a time/place that is appealing to both of you.)
-She add's to the conversation and keeps it going.
-She asks questions.
-She is talkative.
-She gets nervous on the date.
During the 1st Date:
-Her body language is open to you. Always sit next to her, not across from her because a girl that is interested will turn towards you when she talks if she is interested. It also allows for touching. Pay attention to eye contact.
-She will laugh at your jokes and smile.
-As the date goes on she will be more at ease.
-Her pupils dilate.
-She compliments you.
-She follows your lead.
After the 1st Date:
-She remembers things you told her.
-She opens up more and tells you more personal stories.
-She is curious to learn more about you.
-The conversations get longer. I've had 6hr long phone conversations with new women before.
-She likes to talk/text before bed.
-She makes herself available for dates. She will clear off her schedule to meet with you.
-She sends seductive/naughty pics and you won't even need to ask.
-Her face lights up and her arms are open when she greets you.
-She starts touching you more.
-She mirrors your movements.
-She finds reasons to talk to you.
-If she makes the effort, she is interested.
-If she keeps responding, and keeps saying yes, she is interested.
-If she keeps the plans she agreed to.
-If you haven't made plans with her for the weekend yet, she will inquire about your plans. Its her hope that it includes her and you will ask her to do something.
-She will let you know she talked to her friend about you.
-She keeps up with your social media.
There are exceptions to every bit of this. Not all women are the same. Its not always black and white. Life happens, we all get distracted at times.
A womans degree of self-confidence will dictate how she expresses interest. So will how she was raised. More traditional women play their cards closer. A womans degree of anxiety, attachment style will drive a lot of how she responds to you.
Also, most women are kind and don't want to offend anyone(its their protection mechanism). Just because you think she is being nice doesn't mean she is interested. Thats your simple brain that doesn't understand women very well. They hope you will get the hint and move on.
Examples:
-I met a girl thru a mutual friend at a bar one night. After the bar closed we went to her house. She poured us some wine, and cooked some steaks. We had some good conversation and she asked a lot of questions about who I was as a person. It started to become clear that she had some sort of interest in me. Up until this point I just chalked it up to her being nice. When I left that night she asked for my number so I was certain she was interested then. Two weeks later she invites me to a hotel/resort pool party. At the pool party there was some "touching" between us in the water. For about a month she would randomly call/text. I rarely initiated anything. As her frustration must have grown with me not reciprocating/initiating, she reached out to my mutual friend asking him if I was interested or not. She had a good personality and great body, but the face wasn't there for me.
-Another girl I met dancing. We hit if off well and there was lots of physical chemistry. A day later I texted her and she responsed quickly. Later she told me she didn't think I would ever call her. I actually thought she was out of my league looks/age wise so I didn't get my hopes up but that didn't keep me from pursuing her. A week later we had a date that went well. She did most all of those things I listed above. Only thing was she didn't talk a lot like most women do. I teased her about being so quiet, She said she was just nervous.
-I had another girl that I was with for several years. In the early dating phases she would never initiate anything. It got me to wondering how interested she really was. What kept me pursuing her was every time I did ask her out she agreed. IF they keep saying YES, they are interested.
-I met a girl off Match several years ago. We talked on the phone and texted before going out. I had scheduled a date for Saturday nite and she breaks her phone at the lake that day. She cuts her lake time short so she could go to the phone store and port her number over to her work phone. She didn't want me to think she was blowing me off and wanted to make sure our date happened as scheduled.
-I was working a girl at a bar one nite. We were flirting back and forth, light touching. She took my hat and put it on her head and started taking pictures of herself. Up until that point I thought she was interested., It was all about using my hat to take pics of herself. This girl liked the attention and played the game just to get what she wanted. I did get her number but she never replied to my text.
The best way to learn to interpret interest level correctly is to interact with women. For a long time, I looked at each and every interaction with a female as an opportunity to observe and learn so I could become better. Nowdays, I get more base hits, home runs than strike outs. It wasn't always that way.
