Ol'BlueEyes
Senior Don Juan
I've made it a resolution this year to MAN UP. After years of being lazy, scared of rejection, and asocial in general, I'm going out by myself, getting numbers, working out, and am starting to enjoy life.
I still have a way to go, however. The other day at work I had a revelation. An older woman and I got into an argument and she told me in an offhand way that she wonders how I even got here (meaning how could I be born). Now this is a woman who's never happy. We're getting bonuses every quarter and she *****es and moans about how her's is an "insult". She's loud and obnoxious to the extreme. I ignored her at the time, but over the weekend, the more I thought about it, the angrier I got. It was a HUGE insult.
What it boils down to was that she has no respect for me. I also find a parallel between her behavior and that of lots of women that I meet: brush offs, offhanded comments that are truly reprehensible. And of course, being raised as a 'nice' guy I wouldn't defend myself for fear of....well, I don't know what.
Now that I've been going out by myself a lot, I've been using the "Oh, I was supposd to meet someone here tonight," line when I open with women. Of course, 'someone' never shows, and after some good convo, the women I meet always bring it up again: "Looks like your 'friend' stood you up," --instantly lowering her respect for me.
I've gotten my share of numbers, but rarely have gotten past the first or second dates. A big reason is this lack of respect I seemed to get from lots of ladies. Not just dating, other guys wouldn't respect me, either.
No more of this crap....I'm tired of it.
If for no other reason than to get it out of my system, I'm calling this bull**** when I see it. Besides, there's always people who are miserable, and want everyone else to be as miserable as they are.
In the meantime, I'm finished ranting and am heading out to get more numbers.
I still have a way to go, however. The other day at work I had a revelation. An older woman and I got into an argument and she told me in an offhand way that she wonders how I even got here (meaning how could I be born). Now this is a woman who's never happy. We're getting bonuses every quarter and she *****es and moans about how her's is an "insult". She's loud and obnoxious to the extreme. I ignored her at the time, but over the weekend, the more I thought about it, the angrier I got. It was a HUGE insult.
What it boils down to was that she has no respect for me. I also find a parallel between her behavior and that of lots of women that I meet: brush offs, offhanded comments that are truly reprehensible. And of course, being raised as a 'nice' guy I wouldn't defend myself for fear of....well, I don't know what.
Now that I've been going out by myself a lot, I've been using the "Oh, I was supposd to meet someone here tonight," line when I open with women. Of course, 'someone' never shows, and after some good convo, the women I meet always bring it up again: "Looks like your 'friend' stood you up," --instantly lowering her respect for me.
I've gotten my share of numbers, but rarely have gotten past the first or second dates. A big reason is this lack of respect I seemed to get from lots of ladies. Not just dating, other guys wouldn't respect me, either.
No more of this crap....I'm tired of it.
If for no other reason than to get it out of my system, I'm calling this bull**** when I see it. Besides, there's always people who are miserable, and want everyone else to be as miserable as they are.
In the meantime, I'm finished ranting and am heading out to get more numbers.