Interest detection

[iMat]

How can you tell if someone is slightly more interested in you than a friend, or is open to try it out.

In highschool, a lot of people have some idea of who they are going for, and simply don't have the balls to go ask. But when you're a DJ, going out and asking anyone available that fits your criteria, you can't always be sure.

So even if someone is nice around you, and laughs at your jokes etc. how can you know if you can try it out?

I mean, getting numbers and emails is easy, but it always feels like you're just making friends. I just got one today, and as always, wait for a couple days, or talk to them tomorrow (can't help it, same class), and see what happens.

But until I have some idea of where I'm at with her, I can't determine how far I can go before I get a flat out rejection, even as a friend, and lose all hope.

So, what's your DJ que to step it up?

--iMat

 

[NRM]

The cue to step it up is when you realize you are interested. The only way to find out if they are interested is have the balls to ask. Get them on a date, if the date goes well, give them a kiss. You're a man of action, you don't need words. If she isn't interested, she wouldn't give you her phone number, let you take her on a date, and kiss her. There is no other surefire way to find out.

So you can sit around and bask for the rest of your life, or you can take some action and find out for yourself.

 

[LikRetsam]

No need to rush the kiss issue.

Step it up. Start voluntarily paying more attention to her. Invite her to a drink then a walk to the park. Play on the swings and whatnot.

Kino, use kino always. She sends it back at you, that's a green light and you just use it more and more until...

The kiss is way higher up the time line. Do NOT rush it. Just let things flow.

 

[Interpol]

Originally posted by iMat
How can you tell if someone is slightly more interested in you than a friend, or is open to try it out.

Ummm, ASK HER ON A DATE.

 

[big_jeffry]

ask yourself is she being friendly, or is she being flirtatious? if she is a bit of both, just wait a while and then she will give off more body language signals. Read these signals. they are outlined in the dj bible. If she gives off several of these signals frequently... you are in.

 

[iMat]

I wouldn't really say we were flirting. More like, casual exchanges.

--iMat

 

[big_jeffry]

at these casual exchanges, hold eye contact for a split second too long, this is flirting. Doing this is important- it's a moment shared between both of you. This will show her that you are confident when you stare confidently into her eyes. This will show some interest to her on your part. Watch her body language after you do this.

 

[Interpol]

Originally posted by big_jeffry
ask yourself is she being friendly, or is she being flirtatious? if she is a bit of both, just wait a while and then she will give off more body language signals. Read these signals. they are outlined in the dj bible. If she gives off several of these signals frequently... you are in.

Forget this analyzing shit! Just ask her out!

 

[iMat]

Originally posted by big_jeffry
at these casual exchanges, hold eye contact for a split second too long, this is flirting. Doing this is important- it's a moment shared between both of you. This will show her that you are confident when you stare confidently into her eyes. This will show some interest to her on your part. Watch her body language after you do this.

I'll try. This really isn't one of those long dreary classes, where the teacher would probably snap at you for looking elsewhere, but most of the time, she's got a bunch of people she knows, and I just join right in.

I can say I've made a lot of new friends with the DJ techniques. Now, I just need to apply it to women, and take out some of my friendlier (nice guy) which I reserve for friends.

I was thinking of straight out and ask. Something unusual, and open to anything happening, like going somewhere wierd, and just over have fun. My idea would be running around, never staying at one place for a very long time.

I just want some signs. Because asking could be easy or hell. If she's interested, anything you say could work, but if you're unsure, then you'd have to word it carefully, and avoid any times she might be genuinely busy.

Thanks, but any more help?

--iMat

 

[Microphone Fiend]

Kino her and slowly up the ante. That way yo can see how attracted to you she is by her response, and if she wasn't in the beginning she can slowly build up the attraction with each level you raise of kino

 

[iMat]

What are some types of subtle kino I can use, that wouldn't seem obtrusive to other people?

I'm sure I'd get hammered on if some of the other people see me Djing in class.

And what are some sure signs of interest?

--iMat