"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How can you tell if someone is slightly more interested in you than a friend, or is open to try it out.

In highschool, a lot of people have some idea of who they are going for, and simply don't have the balls to go ask. But when you're a DJ, going out and asking anyone available that fits your criteria, you can't always be sure.

So even if someone is nice around you, and laughs at your jokes etc. how can you know if you can try it out?

I mean, getting numbers and emails is easy, but it always feels like you're just making friends. I just got one today, and as always, wait for a couple days, or talk to them tomorrow (can't help it, same class), and see what happens.

But until I have some idea of where I'm at with her, I can't determine how far I can go before I get a flat out rejection, even as a friend, and lose all hope.

So, what's your DJ que to step it up?

--iMat
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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The cue to step it up is when you realize you are interested. The only way to find out if they are interested is have the balls to ask. Get them on a date, if the date goes well, give them a kiss. You're a man of action, you don't need words. If she isn't interested, she wouldn't give you her phone number, let you take her on a date, and kiss her. There is no other surefire way to find out.

So you can sit around and bask for the rest of your life, or you can take some action and find out for yourself.
 
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No need to rush the kiss issue.

Step it up. Start voluntarily paying more attention to her. Invite her to a drink then a walk to the park. Play on the swings and whatnot.

Kino, use kino always. She sends it back at you, that's a green light and you just use it more and more until...

The kiss is way higher up the time line. Do NOT rush it. Just let things flow.
 
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ask yourself is she being friendly, or is she being flirtatious? if she is a bit of both, just wait a while and then she will give off more body language signals. Read these signals. they are outlined in the dj bible. If she gives off several of these signals frequently... you are in.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I wouldn't really say we were flirting. More like, casual exchanges.

--iMat
 
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at these casual exchanges, hold eye contact for a split second too long, this is flirting. Doing this is important- it's a moment shared between both of you. This will show her that you are confident when you stare confidently into her eyes. This will show some interest to her on your part. Watch her body language after you do this.
 
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Originally posted by big_jeffry
ask yourself is she being friendly, or is she being flirtatious? if she is a bit of both, just wait a while and then she will give off more body language signals. Read these signals. they are outlined in the dj bible. If she gives off several of these signals frequently... you are in.
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Forget this analyzing shit! Just ask her out!
 
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Originally posted by big_jeffry
at these casual exchanges, hold eye contact for a split second too long, this is flirting. Doing this is important- it's a moment shared between both of you. This will show her that you are confident when you stare confidently into her eyes. This will show some interest to her on your part. Watch her body language after you do this.
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I'll try. This really isn't one of those long dreary classes, where the teacher would probably snap at you for looking elsewhere, but most of the time, she's got a bunch of people she knows, and I just join right in.

I can say I've made a lot of new friends with the DJ techniques. Now, I just need to apply it to women, and take out some of my friendlier (nice guy) which I reserve for friends.

I was thinking of straight out and ask. Something unusual, and open to anything happening, like going somewhere wierd, and just over have fun. My idea would be running around, never staying at one place for a very long time.

I just want some signs. Because asking could be easy or hell. If she's interested, anything you say could work, but if you're unsure, then you'd have to word it carefully, and avoid any times she might be genuinely busy.

Thanks, but any more help?

--iMat
 
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Kino her and slowly up the ante. That way yo can see how attracted to you she is by her response, and if she wasn't in the beginning she can slowly build up the attraction with each level you raise of kino
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What are some types of subtle kino I can use, that wouldn't seem obtrusive to other people?

I'm sure I'd get hammered on if some of the other people see me Djing in class.

And what are some sure signs of interest?

--iMat
 
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