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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

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nubian-knight

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I find female friends to be the most difficult to deal with since I actually care about their feelings when im interacting with them. On the other hand, their just friends and I dont wana be like those other guys who act all lovey dovey with their female FRIENDS


Let me give you an example, I have a friend who ive known since I was 3 years old. She frequently says "i love u" and other things similar to that. No there is no attraction, shes like family. I never respond and she always seems to get pissy. I feel like saying things like that to a FRIEND seems really lame.


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dude, don't listen to BigBance.

She says she loves you because she is afriad of you getting another FRIEND that is a girl. What I would do is, if you say this girl is like family, go out with a cousin just as FRIENDS. See what thats like, and act upon it.
 

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BigBacneProblem said:
Sounds to me like you're gay.

She acts that way toward you because she knows you're not interested in hooking up with her, you know, like a gay dude.
No he's not. He's not attracted to one women? So he's gay haha. You could try asking her WHY she loves you. or play around and say "I love you too", if she's not serious. Of course' you could just stop being bothered by it.
 

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slightoverbite said:
dude, don't listen to BigBance.

She says she loves you because she is afriad of you getting another FRIEND that is a girl. What I would do is, if you say this girl is like family, go out with a cousin just as FRIENDS. See what thats like, and act upon it.

my female cousins arent affectionate with me like that. i dunno, something about saying "i love you too" to a girl ur not even getting coochie off just seems so afc to me lol

on the other hand, i dont want her to think im being cold towards her, i care for her like a sister
 

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Well like I said saying "I love you" back isn't the only option. You can ask her why she loves you or play around with her and say "I love you" back, but in a playful tone and joke around with her. Or you can just try "I know". But silence isn't working man.
 

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ElStud said:
Well like I said saying "I love you" back isn't the only option. You can ask her why she loves you or play around with her and say "I love you" back, but in a playful tone and joke around with her. Or you can just try "I know". But silence isn't working man.

id feel like a douche saying i love you too, no matter in what tone
"i know" is something id say to a girl id try to game, seems too ****y to a girl im good friends with

bahhhh
 

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well what i kind of meant, and i guess i didn't make it clear, was to try it outon a cousin. you can't mess up bc ur not going to sleep with her or anything. just tell your cousin you love her and see if she says it back kindingly liek your FRIEND who is a girl says it to you.
 

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slightoverbite said:
well what i kind of meant, and i guess i didn't make it clear, was to try it outon a cousin. you can't mess up bc ur not going to sleep with her or anything. just tell your cousin you love her and see if she says it back kindingly liek your FRIEND who is a girl says it to you.
make sense ill give it a go
 

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"I love me too"
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"I like how we love the same things..."
-really?
"Yeah, me..."
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Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

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